Unsheathed Heart

Fairy Tales are Tales for a Reason

When I was younger, I was never a Disney princess girl like most of the girls my age. I never fantasize about a prince saving me from any disaster. Some how I've always had this realism about me. I wouldn't over react when "disasters" would happen nor was I a drama queen. I've always felt like depending on a man to save me from a difficult situation was just unnecessary. I understood in drastic situations a man might be of more help, but if I could do it myself I would. Doing everything on my own is the only way to insure that everything will be done right. I also just felt that no one could live up to the expectations of the prince. We're human and messing up is natural. A person never hurting me let alone the person I want to spend my life with is just absurd. We would all hope for our significant other to sweep us off of our feet and give us a magical moment. Well ever since I was young, the princess thing never clicked for me. Never understood it and still don't. Being so naive as to think that your spouse will never hurt you is a dream that can never be achieved. And because of those Disney movies, young girls are being fed unreachable dreams that put men on an unreachable level. If your ideal man is a prince like in the movies, you're probably never going to find him. I'm not pessimistic, I'm just realistic. I feel like the essential things in a long lasting relationship are being confused with lust. Yes feeling butterflies and tingles is a good sign, but that's more infatuation. Things like honesty and trust are needed. The puppy love phase only lasts for so long. After that is pure effort. The real test are the fights and contradicting ideas. Are you willing to compromise? Are you willing to communicate? Are you willing to put in the effort to keep the relationship? And the real question is are they worth the effort?