Thoughts on Dating, Life and Adventures.
Think of this as an E-diary where I put my thoughts out for people to see and to comment.
Maybe my words of wisdom can help or entertain you. Let's give it a shot.
Holy hell its been one hell of a week so far. Things that have happened in my life!
1. Ended up dumping my boyfriend 2. Found some quotes that helped me move on. 3. May have downloaded a dating app again
Now here's how the break-up went down. I was clearly already in a somewhat fragile state. My feelings were broken I felt pushed to the side and I never had someone not emotionally their. He had commitment issues and he was putting other things and habits above the priority of our relationship. What I said to him...
I wanted to say this in person but with the circumstances, looks like that's not happening anytime soon..
———, I really like you. I respect you and care about you and I have wanted nothing but the best for you, truly. We have chemistry and have fun times together, but you won't invest in me and I don't want to be strung along anymore if you think I'm not worth talking too or worth seeing. I'm going to take some space because I don't want to get closer just to have my heart broken from someone who doesn't know what they want.. My heart already hurts and I have been dealing with it myself, but usually it takes two people to make things work. When you're ready to have an actual relationship, let me know...
And what I got back..
I agree and my intentions were never to hurt you! You're right I don't know what I want. I just am super busy and most of my focus is on my house! I never intended to lead you on and I genuinely feel bad. I wish you nothing but the best, L. , and I mean that.
He said it right there and then folks!! He's been sooo busy yet he has been on snap since we have broken up CONSISTENTLY. Like alll the time giving me the indication he has already moved on and is talking with other people. And you know what.. let him. I feel bad for the people who are going to be in future relationships with him because he shows all these good and promising qualities in the first month or two and then it's like you are not good enough for him anymore.
Let me tell you. THIS IS A TOXIC MAN Which brings me to this quote.
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This quote, right here is the cold hard truth of what a toxic relationship is. If they meant enough to you and they wanted you in their lives bad enough they would have been there for YOU no matter what. I know people can have their days and their funks, but there is no reason why they need to keep dragging you through a relationship that they themselves can't commit too.
Another great quote
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If they keep dragging you along.. and you are unhappy and miserable and you're second guessing yourself with everyday life things then it's not worth it! You can try to communicate and you can try to see if their behavior changes, but that happens slim to none.. it's essential that you stay true to yourself and make sure you-yourself is happy, period.
Sometimes you have to give up your happiness for other people, I get that, but that's when compromising comes into effect. That's when balance and communication is key. Have him know what you are thinking. Have him understand your struggles because if you don't. It's going to get lost in the frenzy of high energy and frustration and it's going to be worse for the relationship down the road. You have to get that out there.
And if you're ready and have had enough of the bullshit. Dump them but lay it down easy and kindly. Be the bigger and stronger person but don't be afraid to say what's on your mind.
These quotes I found through an Instagram page called know_your_worth and I recommend if you're in a weird headspace
