okay so as anyone can probably assume, i am biologically female
i have never identified as a lesbian and very briefly accepted he/him pronouns in the distant past
my personal experience as biological black female has pushed me very far away from femininity
as black women are seen as "hostile", "aggressive", "man-ish", and "too strong" , it is very easy to distance yourself from womanhood
i've been alive only 15 years and nearly every black woman i know or have heard talk about their life in detail describe this as a normal part of the upbringing for black women as white women are seen as more "dainty" and "submissive" and the ideal for a women in america and elsewhere
it's dehumanizing.
understanding that those factors definitely helped me make the decision to understand my gender identity and current pronouns
this is also why i have the brain capacity to understand why some lesbians choose to take on traditionally male pronouns
it's a comfort to be in your own zone when every other box wants to tell you don't belong and kick you out
please be mindful
