Not Thinking Anymore

Stop Pretending

We pretend. Humans pretend a lot. My family pretends so well that they can definitely be the nominee for the Oscars. But as I live, I  notice that not only our family but almost everyone around us is pretending.

Faking the lies which are far from reality. People pretending to be perfect, to be content, to be good to each other, to be at peace, when nobody actually is. Of course, there are some exceptions where you will come in contact with humans that don't pretend, that are what they are, and believe me those people are the ones you want to keep around. Because even if they are rude, at least you can count on their rudeness, rather than trusting on fake kindness.

I personally have this goal in my life agenda. Having pretend half of my life, I guess I yearn for a future where I don't have to bluff anymore. If I am sad then I am sad; if I don't like you; then I am really sorry but I don't like you; if something is wrong with my family then I am not gonna pretend that everything is fine.

Nothing in this life, on this planet, and for that matter in this entire universe is perfect, so I am quitting to strive for it. If anything it's the imperfections that make us special, like dimples on cheeks are considered a sign of beauty but it's actually an anatomical deformity in the zygomatic bone.

If someone else's life is perfect or they are living a life that you desire to but it's nothing you can do to achieve it, then I guess it's fine. You have it the way you have it because of all the circumstances that arose in your life. Nobody else sees those difficulties so nobody else has a damn right to judge your lives.

We, humans, pretend a lot in front of each other but the only result that comes out of it is that we make our own lives miserable. We set this imaginary standard that decides how much are we acceptable.

And if you think about it, the only acceptance that truly matters is your own self and nobody else's. It does not matter if you have a perfect hourglass figure or a muscular body or a picture-perfect personality as long as you are at peace with yourself.

Dear humans, kindly stop pretending. Stop living the lives that you are not but you just do to feel accepted.

The moment you stop pretending, the first thing that happens is you come to know who actually stands with you and who is just there for your fake charade. Secondly, you start discovering the real you. What your heart truly desires. How much ever irrational or how much ever unacceptable or however dark and dirty your secrets are, you will find peace in them. Because they are not secrets anymore but your story that describes you.

Thirdly and most importantly, you will find happiness. Even if you are fucked up and thoroughly messed by life, you will revel in that. You will find joy in your life, which dear people, is the most vital thing to have in our life.

I am really no one to preach anybody anything, but if one thing I am good at is observing people. I like to contemplate on their behaviors and that's the reason I can tell that half of our miseries are because we love to fool everyone around us to the point that we ourselves forget what are realities are.

If you can't change something in your life then accept it and don't pretend that the problem doesn't exist ( if there is any), and after that let life happen.