Psychology Facts

▲ Shyness ▲

》Shyness is a feeling of fear or discomfort caused by other people, especially in new situations or among strangers. It's an unpleasant feeling of self-consciousness — a fear of what some people believe others are thinking.

》For most people, shyness is learned at some point later in their life.. But for some, shyness starts in infancy, with about 10 to 15% of newborns born "inhibited" (about as many are born "bold").

》Shyness is often linked to low self-esteem. It may also be one of the causes of social anxiety.

》This fear can inhibit a person's ability to do or say what they want. It can also prevent the formation of healthy relationships

》Shyness encompasses a broad spectrum of behaviors. It's normal for children to sometimes feel shy in new situations. Perceptions of shyness may also be cultural.

》Between 40 and 60 percent of all adults report being shy, or identify more as someone who is shy.

》Shyness can be a component of being an introvert, but not all shy people are introverts.

》The highest levels of shyness occur in adolescents, with higher levels in girls rather than boys

》Reasons for this gender difference include : bodily changes perceived as awkward or ugly; a rise in sexual feelings and arousal; changes in a girl's body shape reacted to by males in confusing ways; and a new focus on self and privacy.

》One of the first signs that a child's shyness might be a cause for concern is that they never want to leave their parent's side.

》Children who do poorly in their studies or have difficulty making friends should be evaluated for shyness.

》Those who have been victimized by bullying are at risk for developing shyness.

》Children who are constantly ridiculed may exhibit aggressive behavior as an overcompensation for shyness. Those who have experienced neglect are at risk as well.

》Sometimes, shy children aren't diagnosed and treated. Unlike many other emotional disorders, shyness often doesn't result in a child causing problems. Frequently, there are no tantrums or aggressive behavior to raise red flags and encourage treatment.

》To prevent or manage shyness, parents, and guardians can help children develop the following skills:

coping with change
managing anger
using humor
showing compassion
being assertive
being kind
helping others
keeping secrets

》Psychotherapy can help children cope with shyness. They can be taught social skills, how to be aware of their shyness, and ways to understand when their shyness is the result of irrational thinking.