It's You and Me. Always. (JJxREADER)

"Not All Men."

Okay, this chapter is in no way related to the story. This is just me expressing my feelings towards all the BOYS who say not all men. Incase you weren't aware, a woman called Sarah Everard has been found dead in Kent, England. She was killed by a police officer and protests have been taking place to fight for women's protection rights. This is what I have to say to all those boys who say "Not All Men."

WHO FUCKING SAID ALL MEN HARASS PEOPLE?! LITERALLY NO-ONE! When a woman/man/non-binary/other has gone through some sort of harassment by a man (or woman in some cases), whether it's sexual or not, they are fucking traumatised and they have every right to be. They have every fucking right to say the are scared of ALL men. That doesn't mean that every single man is going to try and harass them, it just means they are scared of the possibility it will happen.

And the fact that there are men who get "offended" when women say they are scared of men and say that women generalise men into being "harassers" makes me want to be physically sick. Instead of trying to sympathise with the victims and try and make them feel better, they make them feel like shit for fearing men. Like what the actual fuck?!?!?!

It's gotten to the point now where I am SICK of being quiet. I am SICK of narrow minded, heterosexual, white males (for the most part) thinking they have a say in what women feel like. The second men were born, they were at an advantage based just of their gender. People saw them and thought of strength, of leadership. Yet, when us women were born, we were seen as weak, as vulnerable. People believe we aren't capable of protecting ourselves, and how fucking wrong they are.

Women are so fucking strong. Nothing else needs to be said.

And for all those boys who still get offended when women say they are scared of men, think about it this way.

Let's say I am scared of sharks. The chance of me ever being attacked by a shark or even encountering one is VERY slim, yet that statistic doesn't decrease my fear of them. So when we say we are scared of men, we're not saying that every single man we encounter is going to harass us. But that is not going to decrease our fear of getting harassed, that mindset is not going to change easily.

My first and thankfully only encounter with a man wasn't as bad as many people's experiences, but it was still bad, nonetheless.

I was 14 years old, getting a taxi from my friends house to my house. During the five minute journey, I was on the phone to my friend the entire time, only ending the call when I arrived outside my house. The second I ended the call, the driver started asking me personal questions such as my name, age, where I'm from , where my parents are, etc.

I was fucking 14 and terrified. Hands shaking, I rummaged through my bag full of school books to look for my purse which was at the bottom of my bag. I emptied the contents of my bag on the seat, paid the driver, scooped my stuff up in my hand and ran into my house. No words could describe the fear I felt in that moment. It wasn't until a few hours later did I actually realise what the fuck happened. God forbid what might of happened if I wasn't on the phone to my friend.

This happened around about this time, last year. Only yesterday did I tell my mum about it when I was explaining the racist and sexist things my teacher was saying.

The point of me sharing my experience is to show you why I am scared of men. Women don't have the time to differentiate between the men who mean us harm and the men that don't.

So that is why we say we are scared of ALL men.

The fact that I even feel the need to have to justify my emotions is enough proof that the world is fucked.

MEN, STAY THE FUCK OUT OF WOMEN'S PROBLEMS UNLESS THEY WANT YOU INVOLVED!

Anyways, I hope this educated you. Read up on this and educate yourself further.

Some books I suggest to read if you want to educate yourselves about racism and sexism are "Why I'm No Longer Talking To White People About Race" by Reni Eddo- Lodge and "Women Don't Owe You Pretty" by Florence Givens.