Self Harm the Right Way

Self Harming Correctly

How to Self-Harm, the Correct Way.

A quick guide on how to self-harm, the correct way. You may not think that there can possibly be a ‘correct way of self-harming’ think again.

Step 1) Roll your sleeve up and look at your skin.
Step 2) Pick up that sharp object you are going to use, whether it be a blade or a bit of glass.
Step 3) Compare the two (skin to object). Is it going to give you exactly what you want?
Step 4) Ask yourself, “Is my skin paper?” No, so why cut it?
Step 6) Take your object and either hide it somewhere so secretive even you will forget where you’ve put it or put it in a bin, take the bag out, put it in the dust bin and don’t look back.
Step 7) Go to a mirror, look at the girl staring back at you that is your reflection, no one else’s just yours. When you look in the mirror, do you really want to see a number of scars and you’ve created. You have been through a tough time, you don’t need to punish yourself/ hurt yourself anymore. The pain goes away. Nothing lasts forever. Instead of reaching for the blade, reach for someone’s hand, there’s plenty of them to grab. There’s always an alternative: don’t take a blade when you can take someone’s hand, don’t pull the trigger when you can pull someone closer, don’t lean off the edge when you can lean on someone, don’t take all the falls, it’s just as easy to fly all you need to do is find your wings and donStep 5) Think to yourself, “I may be hurting myself physically, but emotionally, I am hurting the ones that care about me”.

’t feel like you’re nothing when you’re everything to someone.

Other options to self-harm.
Instead of dragging a sharp object across your skin, try something different, try punching a punch bag or if you haven’t got one, punch a big pillow. Or cut potatoes or stab an orange. Keep yourself occupied and doing something to keep your mind off it for example: chat to some friends/family members, write songs, listen to music at full blast, have a warm soak in the bath etc etc. But do something to keep yourself busy and the more you keep yourself busy, the more the urge to self-harm will go away. Also, tell someone about it, you have a voice so use it and it will be heard! Tell someone what you feel like doing and you’ll have the help and support you need.
If you already have scars, they don’t show weakness, they don’t mean you’re a weak person, they’re battle wounds to show you’ve been through a fight! But your skin is the one thing that keeps you held together, why would you want to break that?
If you’re unable to stop self-harming (only will know you physically cannot stop is when you’ve tried other things more than once and they don’t work), self-harm safely. Sterilise the object and keep it clean, keep your scars clean (put savlon on them), if you cut, don’t cut too much or too deep, you don’t want them to get infected, if you burn, don’t hold the flame for too long, etc.

People have been told by some younger people that some of the best ways of dealing with self-harm is to:
1. Listening to music.
2. Talking to friends or family.
3. Writing down how you feel.
4. Drawing a butterfly on yourself - the aim is to keep it alive and if you self-harm you 'kill' the butterfly.
5. Exercise.
6. Burning yourself with an ice cube.
7. Think of the ONE person that means the absolute most to you and they’re apart of you/inside you and whatever you say to yourself, you’ll be saying to them as well and whatever you do to yourself, you’ll be doing to them as well. If you knew that by hurting yourself you’d also be hurting that person in you; would you still do it then?
8. Instead of expressing how you feel onto your skin, express it on paper, write your feelings, thought, urges, dislikes etc. and then rip it up into tiny pieces or burn it.
9. Headspace.com (helps you relax and gain back your control… TRY IT)
You never know what might help or what might not help until you try. Just remember, nothing will get better overnight, it takes time, everything takes time but the more you put into it, the more you get out and the quicker you’ll see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Quotes to remember.
• Life may be a storm now but the rain can’t last forever. It’s not about trying to face it and/or hide from it, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.
• Climb mountains so you can see the world not so the world can see you.
• No one is perfect but the more you are true to yourself in being who you are, the closer to perfect you will be.
• Life is a pain to everyone, tears will be cried, love will be felt, pain will be felt, blood will be drawn but that still doesn’t change anything, it doesn’t stop someone having something worth living and fighting for.
• Be positive and proactive not negative and inactive.
• Breathe, stay calm, you’re in control.
• YOUR life, live it YOUR way.
• Life doesn’t revolve around being what someone else wants; life revolves around being what you want.