Year 2021+ Essays

Loving Something (#5)

        [1] What exactly does it mean to love something? Is it simply the act of being kind, or something much deeper than that? If so, why should someone strive forth to accomplish that act of love instead of living their life void of it?

        [2] To love another species or even object, might be described by having a deep and emotional bond with it. Something that might want you to risk everything you possibly have for it. Love is not limited to worldly things, as you can also deeply appreciate things outside it, like stars or even God. Although there are so many ways to love, the most common kind that humans might find themselves falling into is the love of another human being.

        [3] Deep connections with another human being is often something that people as humans might crave for. Being appreciated for who you are, flaws and perfections alike. Having someone to support and care for you, which could happen through friendship or romantic relationships. Regardless of what type of relationship, the showcasing of love is often interpreted as two people showcasing their feelings mutually, as opposed to one sided affection.

        [4] So why exactly is it so important that people learn to love and care for each other? At first thought it might be seen as a way of having self-gain. However, that notion isn't exactly wrong or right. When in a relationship, you depend on the other person to be there for you when you are struggling. For example, if a family member has passed away, simply being by your side while you mourn can be a great sign of affection and support. On the contrary, the other partner needs to do similar things for their significant other. If they are struggling with their family life, the partner can be there for them to rant to, or just talk to. Having the support of another person is extremely important, as there are some things in life that you truly cannot go through alone.

        [5] It's important to learn to love yourself before you begin to love another person. This might be a slightly controversial subject, as some people think it's a good idea to learn to love yourself through another person. In my personal experience and opinion however, I believe that someone should learn to love themselves before they even attempt to love someone else. If you're incapable of accepting your own flaws, how can you even begin to accept someone else's? Love isn't perfect, as there are so many variations and different showcasings of it. Sometimes it is good to have someone there for you to point out your good or not so good qualities as a way of confronting and accepting them, possibly even changing them so you feel more confident about them.

        [6] When changing or shifting things about yourself, it's extremely important that you do it for yourself, not others. For example, If you were to wear makeup out places, it's best to reflect on if you're truly doing this for yourself, or if you want the people around you to like you more. Though there's nothing wrong with wanting to make yourself look good, it's not healthy to constantly be in a state of worry about your appearance. This can also be said about your body shape. I personally have trouble accepting different body parts of mine, like my nose or stomach. However, I also understand that it's unhealthy to be in a constant state of unhappiness about my body when I should be cherishing it instead. You're only given one life like this one to live, and spending it hating yourself only wastes away at the little time you have to live it out. Yes, you can change things about yourself by having surgery or by using makeup, but that's up to you to decide, especially if it does make you more confident and happy.

        [7] Though it's very good to love something, there is a very fine line between loving something and being obsessed with it. Loving something can include being drawn to it, showing it affection, appreciating it, and knowing when to give it space or a break. When you're obsessed with something, it's hard to even imagine your life without being by it all the time. Obsession is bad because it can often lead to addictions and unhealthy relationships and habits. An example that can be used is how some people are addicted to smoking, drinking, vaping, or sex. Most of these things that, in moderation, are not bad for you. But when these things are made into a habit, it can very easily change your way of thinking or treating other people. When under the influence someone can, without much struggle, do something embarrassing or inappropriate without much thought. This is why it's important to know the difference between a love for something, and an obsession with something. Having boundaries and self restrictions is vital, and can change the course of your relationship with something you hold dear.

        [8] Though there's a lot of true effort that needs to be put out during a relationship between something or someone, that doesn't mean you shouldn't at least try to have one. Putting forth the effort to go through those struggles for that person or thing really showcases how much you care for it, and can really mean a lot.

[2022-Language and Composition]