1. How much is the allowance?
Obviously, we all have a magical number in our heads, but if we are unable to have these numbers met, then I feel that the next best thing is compromising. Hopefully it's a win-win situation. It should be a number you are happy with, not stuck with.
You should clearly know the amount that your allowance will be and any of of the major details of the arrangement, before you begin acting upon any of those details together, and not be told something such as "well it may take a while to see if we have any real chemistry first, if you know what I mean" wink wink...umm nope.
2. How will the sum of your allowance be paid to you?
Will it always be paid in the same manner, so that you can count on it? At the very least, if he can not pay you in cash every month, as is the preferred method, try to figure out what his second and third favourite options are. This will save both you and him possible hassles later on. Maybe it will be variety of pre-paid visas, cash, direct deposits, certified checks ( no regular checks ladies!), email money transfers, or perhaps one month he decides its all in gift cards to Walmart...then what??
3. How often will you receive your allowance?
Its fair to say that most SB's receive their allowances monthly, however it is becoming quite common for SB's to receive their allowances either biweekly or per visit with their SD.
The main reason to know how often you will receive your allowance is to be able to plan ahead with your own finances. If he plans on giving you your allowance at random times when he can "sneak away" money, than that may not help you plan ahead for your rent that's due on the 1st of every month, your car payment that's due on the 15th or your schools tuition payment schedule etc. Whether its monthly, biweekly, weekly or daily, you'll need to plan ahead wisely so your prepared either way.
Like the old saying never live pay cheque to pay cheque, it's important to get yourself to a stage where you're not living "allowance to allowance".
4. What do you need to do to get your allowance?
The all important question. Just like they ask us the inevitable "What does that get me?", we need to ask them and ourselves the important question of "What do I have to do for that?"
Here are some basics, there are more but here's a few:
* How often would you like to see each other?
* Is this a mutually exclusive SD/SB arrangement?
* What time frame would you like these dates to be for?
* What types of activities would you like to do on these dates?
* Would you like for me to travel to you, you to travel to me, both, or meet in the middle, or a combination of all?
* Is there any chance of out of town travelling or overnight night stays together?
* If so, what would you like to happen in that instance, a shared room or separate rooms?
* Would you like me to attend certain social/work functions with you?
* How often would he like you to communicate and through which means? Email, phone calls, texts, Skype?
* What are his AND your sexual expectations?
* Etc...
Basically, you need to clarify what it is he wants from you, for you and of you, in order for you to receive your money.
5. What can you do that would hinder receiving your allowance?
This is self-explanatory. Assuming his requirements are within reason, you do not want to do anything that would ruin a good arrangement with a respectful, charming, selfless, genuine and honest Sugar Daddy, not to mention good looking ,)
However, something that may make him think twice about giving you your allowance is if he suspects or finds out you have another SD or have been entertaining a Pot, when he thought you were exclusive.
Things that can hinder obtaining your allowance can range from what may seem insignificant to one person to an absolute deal breaker to another. It all depends on the details and requirements that you both agreed to when establishing your arrangement. This is why it's important to ask the questions listed in #4, so you know whether or not it's the right arrangement for you.
It's a good idea to ask him for specific examples of things that would be deal breakers for him, so that you know ahead of time, what to avoid, or what to be sneaky about.
Something to keep in mind, is "What can you do to increase your allowance?"
Now, I'm not saying to go and flat out ask for a raise in your allowance, unless you have maintained a successful arrangement with the same SD for a fair bit of time, then by all means go for it! But if you are new to the arrangement or the bowl in general, think of it this way, "treat others how you would want to be treated". Make them feel special, go out of your way to remember the little things, mention the little things and do the little things, that the other people in their lives have taken for granted. Show them that you care.
"Arrangements are work. The allowances are the pay checks."
