BEFORE YOU MEET
Make sure you have a way to contact your POT off of the sugar website. Nothing's worse than being stood up on a first meet. An email, or cell phone number to keep in contact is essential. If plans change, it's quicker to communicate through email or texting/calling. You don't want to be stood up. And a POT giving you another way to reach them shows that they're generally serious about actually showing up to meet you.
Know what your POT looks like now. Don't you just love POTs who send you pictures that are clearly 10-20 years old and all grainy, or just face shots wearing sunglasses and hats? If I'm going to be having sex with you at some point, I want to know what I'm dealing with. Have your POT send you recent, up to date pics so you aren't shocked when the person in front of you looks nothing like the pictures he sent.
Discuss and agree upon an allowance range. I'll never understand why POTs want to wait until the first meeting to discuss an allowance. I'm not going to spend over an hour getting ready and coordinating transportation to find out a POT is offering $200/meet. If POTs get too technical and say things like "what will $1,000 get me?" forget about him. That's a red flag he's going to want a cheap pay per play, tit for tat thing.
WHEN YOU MEET
Make sure your POT knows nothing sexual will happen on a first date. I find it to be distasteful to do anything sexual on a first meeting with a POT. If he gives you a really fantastic gift that you totally did not expect, a kiss might be appropriate but it's totally optional. The sex will come soon enough if he ends up being your SD. And the longer you can keep a POT on the hook, the more sugar you will get.
First meetings should be about testing chemistry and mutual attraction.
Focus on getting to know your POT. That's why I believe in discussing your arrangement needs beforehand, so you can concentrate on getting to know each other, like a real first date. Talking numbers and money is uncomfortable. Talking about hobbies, school, work, and traveling is not.
Keep the first date short and sweet. 1 - 2 hours max. Even if you have nothing else going on the rest of the day, you want to appear that you are busy and reinforce that your time is valuable. Plus, if the date is going terribly it will only have been 1 hour wasted.
Keep conversation light and flirty. Touch his arm across the table or give him a coy smile and he'll light right up.
Get to know the basics (without giving away personal info. to this stranger), and see if you share any interests.
At the end of the date, you will probably be able to gauge how interested your POT is in you. And he may even verbalize his desire for an arrangement right then and there. If he does want you, and you are okay with his offer, feel free to accept. But if you aren't sure, tell him that you'd like some time to think about it.
End the date with a hug or a handshake, something physical so that you touch. When you leave your destination, make sure your POT does not follow you. But you can also steal a glance at what kind of car he drives or his license plate number for future reference.
AFTER YOU'VE MET
If it went well, send a follow-up text. Shortly after you meet, shoot your POT/SD a text saying that it was a pleasure meeting him and you'd love to see him again. You may be able to hammer out the details of your arrangement right then.
If the date was a disaster, count your losses. Worse comes to worse, you got a free coffee/lunch/dinner/gift. If your POT contacts you and asks you out again, decline politely and wish him luck finding what he's looking for.
Think of meeting your POT like having a real first date. It could go spectacularly, or it could go terribly. Or it could be just okay. But no matter what, the experience will have taught you more about yourself and what you are or aren't looking for in a sugar daddy, or an actual partner.
So keep your chin up gals. Because the great thing about first dates is that they can lead to second, third, and fourth dates.
