#1. Men Think You're More Attractive Than You Think You Are
If you're a somewhat decent-looking girl, you probably have an assessment of your looks that you are right now comparing to the looks of so-and-so model or so-and-so gorgeous acquaintance, etc. By comparison, you don't feel so hot.
Well, guess what?
Most sugar daddies don't spend their days flipping through the pages of Cosmo. They're also too busy with work to go frolicking around with models all day. The simple fact that you're a young, cute girl makes you beautiful. Add to this the fact that you're a young, cute girl who is having dinner with them and interested in what they say, makes you the most gorgeous girl they know.
In addition, you have to remember that men are human. And all humans are susceptible to a herd mentality: We believe what other people believe. That is why, in America, as the media broadcasts images of models and underweight actresses, we believe thin is a epitome of beauty. In Mauritania, however, girls force-feed themselves to attain the ideal fatness their men like.
What all this means for you is that men will judge your beauty by how other people judge your beauty. And the primary way he can do that is by observing how attractive you seem to believe yourself to be.
Have an unshakeable belief in your own attractiveness, and he'll believe it too.
#2. Do NOT Equate your Physical Beauty with your Worth
Many SBs fall into this trap when they're figuring out how much they should ask for allowance. Some make the mistaken assumption that the allowance should be equivalent to your level of physical beauty. This is bullshit.
By determining your allowance amount by your physical attractiveness, you're leaving out the majority of what you offer.
Every girl possesses certain, non-physical qualities that are worth much more than her physical beauty and most often, those characteristics are what SDs are looking for. You might not be America's next top model, but are you witty enough to make him laugh? Are you thoughtful enough to know just when to say the right thing? Are you appreciative enough to make him feel like the amazing man who's made your life happier and easier?
All these qualities of yours are priceless. He knows it. Make sure you do too.
#3. The Difference Between a Sweetheart and a Pushover
People like sweethearts. Sweetness is wonderful. Sweetness can also be powerful. It can help you diffuse arguments, mask criticisms, and get out of undesirable situations.
But sweetness needs to have a backbone. It needs to able to laugh in his face when he makes a moronic request. It needs to be able to let him know that he's being a douche when he's crossed the line. Do it sweetly, of course, but DO IT.
Men will try to push you just to see if they can. This "pushing the envelope" game is also popular with dogs and children. Whomever you're dealing with - remember that the boundaries need to be set early.
If you're a sweet pushover, there is no greater service you can do for yourself than to practice saying, "no." Say it with a smile. Follow it up nicely with something else you'd like to happen instead. Keep your sweetness, but learn to mix it up with a little spice and a little sour when called for.
#4. Most Importantly: You're Worth a Helluva Lot More Than Whatever He's Giving You
Ever heard the saying, "People spend their youth trying to make money and spend their money trying to buy youth?"
It's uncanny how this saying sort of explains the entirety of the sugar relationship.
But anyway, I've brought this up so that you don't forget something mighty important: you may not have money, but you have youth. Guess which one is actually attainable.
My point is, don't ever let yourself get intimidated by his wealth or successes. Don't let your life be dominated by what he wants from you.
You're young and you have something worth much more than what he can ever offer you: you have a future. And a future full of possibilities has an allure greater than a past full of successes.
You have something far more valuable than what your SD can offer you. Don't forget that.
