Coming Out Stories

Story 18

Learning what bisexuality was. That's when I knew. I'd stumbled across it in a dictionary when I was young and it made sense. All the girls were talking about boys and all the boys were talking about girls and I didn't felt like I belonged more in one conversation than the other. When I was 14 is when I first took it seriously. Not everyone likes non-straight people, my dad being one of them. This made me realise that maybe being bisexual isn't a good thing and I shouldn't tell anyone. That's around the age when I fell in love with my best friend. My straight, taken best friend. I spent two years keeping it quiet until I met a boy who took that out of my mind and all I could think of was him. Before this, I'd never been in love with a boy before so it was odd because I finally understand why all the other girls at school spoke about how amazing being in love with a boy is. When I started NCS this spring, I met two of my best friends, one by one girl and both were gay. This change things for me because talking to them made me realise that sometimes being out is easier than staying quiet. So they were the first two people I told. Then I told the rest of my NCS group. All fine so far. Then my boyfriend. Not so good, that's all I'll say on that matter. His insecurities heightened, now seeing everyone as a threat and making it seem like being bisexual is a bad thing. I haven't told anyone since that I already knew before coming out. Since then, I met a girl who was also bisexual and we bonded over that. She was amazing and kind and made me remember again why I started coming out.

Things are good now I'm out, I can openly discuss it with my friends. I earned a new nickname. Bon Jovi. Because I'm not gay but I'm half way there. I've become closer to people because of the trust we now share. I've even had a friend come out as bisexual (and since then gay) when I told him. Life is good now I'm out. My mum, dad and step dad don't know though.