We often try to force ourselves to live in a certain world that is at our own advantage, no matter what the consequences are. It is difficult to question ourselves if what we do and what we want to be is for the best, without actually having someone to point out the facts for us. Sometimes it is a blessing to choose how to live your life, and how the lives of those who surround you affect you on a daily basis, yet it is just as much as a curse since we are never sure of the outcome of it all. Trying to understand one’s world is not an easy thing, yet knowing is of vital importance. Our lives are divided in two worlds; one of factual events and another of what seems to be nothing but a world of dreams. Crossing from one world to another is very easy, yet we cannot afford to ignore the fact that it is of great importance to know where we belong and how not to allow our world to crash with those of the individuals surrounding us.
Reality can be de defined as the truth beyond our imagination towards a certain situation or problem that actually exist in life, in contrast to how one would actually like it to be. The human mind is a very tricky machine that works wonders and makes us believe in certain things without actually us knowing the nearest truth to these events. Our imagination is one of the places we mostly get lost into without any regrets, just for us to escape reality. It is part of human nature to escape reality and it may as well serve as some form of therapy when facing certain situations in life, yet it might also prove to be one of the worst ways in which an individual can get broken.
Facts are more and closely related to reality, and they form part of human reasoning. A fact is a situation that actually exists in real life, known to be true and rather not invented, more especially when it can be proved. Knowing how to live in your own world depends on how much reality there is in your life, which, as a result, depends on how frequently you depend on the real life situations when it comes to reasoning. However, as a human error, we barely depend on that since we would rather live a life full of deceptions rather than facing the truth. We know it whenever we face a certain situation and try to ignore the amount of truth it holds, and frequently, we rather choose to ignore how dense the truth is and enjoy the beauty of fantasy.
Dreams are characterized by how frequent the mind keeps on processing information. The more you get to think of a certain situation, the more you are likely to believe that it is or it was bound to happen. Our dreams depends on the series of events that happens in our lives, and they are closely related to our feelings. Well, one might think that I am referring to the images that play in one’s mind when asleep; dreams are more of all the images that we get to create for ourselves, asleep or not, and in such a way that we are favouring ourselves in a particular situation, and of course, not forgetting the influence of our feelings. It is not wrong to be a dreamer, but only if you are creating a certain image for yourself in such a way that you are not respecting those around you in such a way that you allow your feelings to get the better of you just for the non-existent world to exist.
Ignorance is one of the factors that, apart from feelings, play a huge psychological game in us knowing the difference between the two worlds. Ignorance can be plainly defined as the act of putting aside the facts presented, in such a way that one is not showing any interest or giving any value to the facts presented. In this way, an individual will act in such a way that he lacks the knowledge or information before a certain situation, which in most cases is highly questionable. Not that the individual in question did not have access to acquiring the particular knowledge, but rather opted to put it all aside and live in such a way that all is non-existent to him. This will lead to lacking certain skills in life which are very crucial, skills that will allow flexibility, competence and an elevated skill and knowledge of the social world.
Embracing the truth is one of the very first steps an individual can take in order to know the difference between the two worlds. Knowing what is real and what is not, what should be done and what shouldn’t, what we can do for our lives to be better and when to let go whenever a certain situation makes you go blind in seeing the truth are some of the baby steps one can take in order to draw a line between the two worlds. Knowing the truth is an easy thing, and I often consider it as an achievement, but knowing how to handle the truth, how to use it at your own advantage and how to manipulate it to fit your needs is another. Everyone has the capability of bending their truths in their lives, but the degree in which we try to bend the truth might end up making the two worlds overlap, and we might not be able to differentiate between the two. One cannot afford to ignore the truth, but knowing how to embrace it is very important. We may try to ignore the truth or to manipulate it to such an extent that it is to our satisfaction, but knowing when and where to stop might serve as an advantage, since one cannot afford to allow the two words to overlap.
Drawing lines between the two worlds is one of the final steps one can take in order to know what is real and what is not. It is not an easy thing to carry out, but it is worth a try. Knowing that you are either of the realistic world, or rather that of fantasy will serve as a great advantage; knowing is owning power, and there is nothing as great as being in power of your own actions and all that surrounds you. Distancing the two worlds and keeping them apart will not only make one see the truth, but also improve one’s skill to analyse, understand, cherish and appreciate the existing part of his world. Finding your place in this angry world is not an easy thing, but it is worth it to know and understand where you belong. It is one thing to own a house, yet it is another to find know your home.
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After my mother died, I faced a lot of challenges. One of the things I had to teach myself on my own in her absence is searching, finding, knowing and understanding the truth. I must admit that she did a great job before her passing, since by the age of nine, I had just enough for me to draw between the two; truth and lies.
It wasn’t just the truth that was important for me to find; I had to find my place in this world too. Now that I did not have her guidance through the valleys of this world, I needed to find the most comfortable place for me to dwell in this angry world. I searched for years up to a point that I almost lost myself in the search, but one thing that I learned from her that kept me going is that when you search for something, try not to lose the rest that you already own.
I have been raised by a lot of people, before her passing and soon after her passing. Sometimes, I feel at home when I lived with those that raised me, and at other times I used to run to her grave and cry my eyes out, regretting the days that passed when she was alive and I wasn’t beside her. I tried to appreciate life, but it didn’t feel enough for me at all.
When puberty kicked in, I had a lot of bad company, the kind of friends that drove me into doing something that I never wanted to do. I thought I was safe and that all is well. I thought that I was becoming a man, and that nothing in this world can stand against me, yet it was just the ugly effect of the hormones of puberty. I was never completely blind to my actions, yet I cannot claim consciousness since I was reckless. There is a lot that I did throughout my life until my first years in varsity, some of which I still regret to this very day.
One thing that I will never allow myself to repeat doing is letting my emotions get the better of me in my judgement. When I was going through high school, all I did depended on my emotions. The way I talked to my parents at some point was worryingly disrespectful, and at times, I went against their words. I cannot blame myself entirely for all this since I had a broken childhood, yet I mustn’t allow myself to get consumed by rage and anger over what happened to me nine years ago. I know that abuse can shield a person’s judgement, and might at some point create a certain world in an individual’s life, a world of comfort and having it all perfect, but knowing when to stop with these images is worth the start to get rid of the disturbing memories of abuse.
In a lot of situations we get to find ourselves in, we often try to find the easiest way out. Be it abuse, loses or financial crisis; the result of our suffering might turn us into different beings, new beings that know nothing about judgement, beings that do not know how to draw lines between what is real and what is not. I am pleased that after nine years of suffering, I realised that knowing the truth and believing what is real is what drives most people. I can finally claim that even if I have known my house, my home proves to be fascinating and more promising.
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