Moon In Gemini

Invalidation

I spill my emotions for my loved one's to see and right away they tell me I shouldn't feel what I'm feeling
That makes me feel invalidated
Which causes some distrust within myself
I rely on their insight instead of my own because I learned any emotion I feel is initially not real
People often would wonder why I considered the easy way out and its because I didn't feel heard and when I didn't feel heard , I didn't feel seen and when I didn't feel seen
I felt invisible
I felt as if my existence meant nothing to the people around me
It made me feel difficult
People made me feel difficult
They made me feel unbearable and unlovable when I was having a bad day
Nobody understands how much it hurts not to be acknowledged
Nobody understands how much it hurts to pretend like everything is okay so you won't upset people
If only people could have empathy and really understand where my scars originate instead of bashing me for having them
The worst thing you can do to a person is invalidate them
Because once you do, you just taught someone that what they feel isn't important and if a person is confused by their own emotions, how can they function properly?
If we actually took the time to attune to other people's emotions then there would be no such thing as "mental illnesses"
If we could validate people and let them know that it's okay to feel what they feel
Then mental disorders would cease to exist
Actually
The labels would cease to exist
All a mental illness is , is a label for a person who's tangled up in their trauma, causing erratic behaviors
It's only a reaction to feeling unloved
It doesn't mean a person has a defect
Yet we consider people who have mental illnesses with serious faults making a person feeling even more bad about themself
No one has anything wrong with them
We all just need love
And for our feelings to be validated