Pain
Pain, I've always asked myself why people need to experience pain and heart breaks. Why can't we just be happy and live with our lives? I always experience my friends telling me their own story. What they feel in their heart and how painful they're going through. I don't know what to do but to the tell them "Everything's gonna be alright." But how can I tell them that, if I don't really know how they feel. Then I realize I was wrong. Wrong to think that pain can be easily forgotten, to easily move on... because that is the thing about pain. You wouldn't know the feeling until you experienced it yourself.
Pain is something we should experience and feel. To know the lesson that it will give and to learn how to overcome it. This is something we shouldn't underestimate because this can lead to depression and anxiety. Once you've experienced pain, you might be afraid to love again or to even let anyone close to you. You might think that that person will be like your previous partner that will just hurt you and leave you. It will be difficult for you to love and fully trust again like you did before.
I, once experienced heartbreak and pain too. I told myself that time that I'll be focusing on my studies and family, that I will never experience the word love again. But as the day passed, I realized I was wrong. Because I know that one day there will be someone who will fix my heart. And not just my heart but myself too. Pain can't be easily removed in our hearts. As I've said earlier this could lead to depression and anxiety. And depression is one of the article that I want to deeply talk about.
There's a lot of people who becomes suicidal because of the pain and depression that they're experiencing. They feel so lonely and broken that leads them to commit suicide just to stop the pain that they're experiencing, thinking that if they're dead the pain will be gone. No one can really help us but ourselves. Hiding your fragile heart is not an easy task. You would do everything to hide it especially to the person who hurt you because that person might take advantage of that feeling of yours.
Me as a girl knows their capability of what else they can do to us. Especially when we are fragile and cannot do anything about our feelings. We tend to asked for someone's help who would comfort us and would be there for us until we're finally okay and ready to move-on. But be wise on asking someone's help. Because someone out there might just take advantage of us or there might be someone who has a good intension as well. When you find that someone who would really heal your heart and you are both ready for it, be happy and accept it. Not everyone is like your previous partner who would hurt you the way he/she did to you. There will be someone out there who is ready to mend it and accept you even if you push him/her away again and again. The Pain isn't easy to let go but when you are ready it will go easily. You will wake up and the pain inside your heart is gone. You won't believe that the pain you are enduring for months is already gone. And that you make you happy again.
We all have different ways on enduring the pain some of us would want to be alone and talk to his/herself, some of us would want to be with his/her friends and tell them what we feel, some of us would go to the bar and drink alone thinking that the pain will be gone, some of us would punch trees or rocks expecting that the pain would be gone, and lastly some of us would cry and asked God why is He doing it to us. But the best we can do is to accept the reality that no one in this world will permanently stay with us. We just have to accept it and move on. In the end some of greatest pain will be your strength. Our strength.
