this is just a vent, don't mind me
dear parents,
please take me seriously. don't act like i'm a little kid who doesn't know anything about the world. i'm sixteen. i still have a long way to go, but i'm not stupid. i can have my own opinions and beliefs, and i might be right about them.
when i say that i'm not straight, don't tell me that "everyone's a little bit gay" or that "you never know your sexuality until you fall in love" or that "there's a difference between acknowledging that a girl is pretty and being attracted to her." you guys have been attracted to the opposite sex since you were children. and i understand that you can acknowledge that someone is good-looking without being attracted to them. that's how i feel about a lot of boys. but i am attracted to girls, and only girls. it's not a phase, i'm not confused, i'm a lesbian.
also, don't refer to any future partner for me with he/him pronouns. i know when i tried to come out to you, i came out as bi, since i thought it would be easier for me at the time. but even if i was bi, there would still be an equal chance of me dating/marrying a girl. so please, don't assume i'm straight. at the very least, use they/them, and when i finally feel comfortable telling you i'm a lesbian, use she/her. i'm tried of hearing "when you get a boyfriend" because i WON'T.
also, don't assume that every time i mention a boy at school that i like him. stop teasing me about that one boy who was in some of my classes. i don't even like boys and we're not even friends. me saying that i find him annoying doesn't mean i secretly like him. it means that i genuinely find him annoying.
also, please let me have my privacy. stop going through my phone. you wouldn't like it if i invaded your privacy like that, so why should you do it to me? there are some things that i do that i don't want you to know about, just like there are some things that you do that you don't want me to know about. i don't have to share everything with you immediately, i'll tell you about things when i feel comfortable enough to. i have to hide my all social media from you because you would monitor it and follow me on it. i had to block you on wattpad so that i could do have the freedom to do what i want. i stopped using my instagram account in grade seven because you followed it.
also, stop getting mad at me when i hide things from you. or, actually, you can be mad, but at least let me explain. i don't feel comfortable telling you things because when you find out about them, you unleash all hell upon me without even letting me speak.
i have a GIRLFRIEND that i can't tell you about because i know you would freak out, and say something like "internet relationships aren't real relationships" or "she could actually be a forty year old man". internet relationships are just as real as ones with people you've met in person. that's like saying interactions with my friends from school over texts or calls can't grow our relationship. that's stupid. and i understand the dangers of meeting people online but i KNOW that neither she or any of my other friends are pedophiles in disguise, i have plenty of proof. there's a difference between being safe and being full-on paranoid.
stop trying to force me to text my friends all the time. social things make me nervous. i know i need to improve on that, but don't shame me for it or try to shove me into it, it only makes me feel worse.
my hair is my hair, i can dye it if i want. if i want to buy an article of clothing with my own money, let me. i can decide how i look. it's not like i'm getting a ton of tattoos or walking around in clothing that barely covers my body.
not everything i complain about is an attack against you.
you DO yell at me during arguments, stop pretending you don't. you aren't saints.
admit it when you make mistakes.
if i open up to you about something, don't make fun of me for it afterwards.
let me cry. it's a natural reaction to stressful situations. don't stop me from showing my emotions and don't tell me i'm acting like a baby.
stop calling me lazy and selfish and useless all the time.
when i make a small mistake, don't start ranting about everything i've ever done wrong.
when i have interests, don't mock me for them. don't insult something just because i like it.
stop saying that i'm just a kid whenever i want to do something mature, and that i'm almost an adult when i do something immature. i am a teenager. not a little kid, not an adult either. let me be young.
don't say "you were so smart when you were younger" when i mess up in school. school was easier when i was younger, and messing up doesn't make me dumb.
my problems may seem small to you, but they're big to me.
sorry i just had to get this out-
