The Words That My Mouth Failed to Speak

Evaluating The Meaning Of Love

Love. We've all been familiarized with the term since we were little, whether it was in movies, books, television shows, music, or even just hearing people say it.

What's always intrigued me is how differently everyone interprets, shows, and feels about love. It could be caused by the way they were raised, for example, if the child sees their parents constantly being physically and mentally abusive, they could think that behavior is okay.

It might take many failed toxic relationships and possibly even friendships, for them to realize that that's not the way love is supposed to be.

Another possibility that could cause their view on love to change is abandonment, perhaps from a parent or another person close to them. They might even stay in toxic relationships longer, in fear of being alone.

They could stay in the toxic relationship just because they desperately want to feel the "love" that they have craved their whole life.

For some odd reason though I'm noticing a pattern in this generation, they tend to normalize toxic relationships, when in reality staying in them will do more damage, than leaving.

Truth is there's no right way to fall in love, you learn from past relationships, and your own thoughts, on how you want to be treated and what you're going to put up with.

The way I see it, love is something that is supposed to be natural and healthy, it should never be forced or toxic.

Love can be a beautiful thing, but it can somehow at the same time be painful, but it's important to know the different between a rough patch and a bad relationship.

What I've learned from relationships is that love is never easy. There's going to be days where your relationship is at an ultimate high, where the feeling of intimacy and affection is at a greater feel.

You're going through life together, figuring each other out, spending days with them, going on dates, discussing your possible future with them, helping one another achieve their goals, giving them a push forward in life when they feel like they can't go forward.

Helping them through tough situations that life is constantly throwing at us.

Unfortunately though, with good days comes the bad days. There could be days where you're fighting, days where you're trying to forgive each other for something they have done.

Days where it feels like there's a possibility you could lose your person, days where it feels like your argument is the biggest thing at the moment and you might start to feel like you'll never get through it, you will. You might start to think about giving up, don't.

Communication through problems especially can fix so much, sometimes even if you don't agree with what someone said, did, or the way they handled something, it's not worth arguing over.

Communicate and tell them how you feel about the subject at hand most of the time the problem is not worth losing someone over.

Try to find out different ways you can both handle the problem next time instead of arguing. How you handled something during an argument or the harsh words you've said during an argument make a bigger impact, than one would think.

With that being said, take a deep breath and think about what you say and are going to do, before you do it.

Falling in love can be very scary to some people; you're giving someone permission essentially to break your heart, but at the same time you're allowing them to make you happy in a way no one else can.

It's important not to become reliant on that one person for happiness though, you are responsible for your own happiness.

There's no correct way to fall in love, there's no correct way to approach love and it's problems but in the end it is worth it and you could be spending the rest of your life with that one person.

Unfortunately though in my case, I haven't had a relationship that wasn't toxic.

I'm kind of glad that life put me in those situations because it taught me to be very strong, and independent.

It has developed my mindset to think in a way no one else my age thinks, which I'm forever grateful for.

It taught me my worth that I shouldn't allow myself to be treated that way ever again. So I will forever thank those bad friendships and relationships for teaching me life lessons.

I know my expectations and my limits for myself and the people I let into my life.

With all of that being said, if you're going to fall in love, know your self worth and be careful.

If you're in a toxic situation, please leave. you're better without them, I promise.
-Mari

hi my angels, please learn & remember your worth. you are loved, you are valid, you matter. you deserve someone who treats you amazing, don't settle for less. <3