Unspoken Words.

Listening and Understanding

One of another thing people of this generation donot do.

Yes, true, understanding and listening. Two different things that always runs in same circle of communication.

In communication, we tell talk but just talking is not enough now and very well if there is a serious discussion or arguement broke in the room then every person talking their piece at same time is not going to help anyone. Its like all the musical instruments being played at the same time but without any synchronization. In communication, the only thing focused is to talk, when you listen, and understand what is being said and then we are to talk. But right now this generation, or the people now be silent only to form a reply inside their head withhout even listening to what is being said. They say listen and silent both words have same letters but havve totally different meanings to it.

Be silent while one person is talking to you but in that time listen to him on what is being said and understand to what and why are they telling you this and then give your piece to talk. Understand the meaning of listening. It is actually the best thing a human can do. It is because when a person listens his ears recieve the voice, his mind replays the words and try to put it together, understanding the words being said and if you did listen to that person intently then the opposite person will be happy, content that someone is present to listen and talk to him. Sometimes that is enough for few people to know at least one person is there to hear them, to talk to them. The feeling of someone listening to them and talking to them understanding will make you calm and content and useful for a moment.

They both are parallel to each other. As people don't get the meaning of listening at all. Some people just are so overly smart without even listening to what is being said, what actually the opposite person is talking about, they simply reply starting to reply with totally unrelated matter. They keep silence only to reply back not to understand that they have said and speak.

The main problem of not listening to few or some or many people don't take the criticism coming to them in a nice way. As in they just don't like somemone criticizing, well, obviously criticizing someone is not a good thing to do, but when the honest criticism is given for your best wishes, then you are suppose to take, to make yourself better, to improve yourself. Some say listening is easy you listen to the opposite person speaking, oh no, that is not listening it is hearing. Hearing is like you listen to cars moving on the road, noises from other sources, that is hearing, listening to sound with absent mind. Listening is, you completely focused on the opposite person, and concentrate on the words he is saying at the same time your mind is understanding his words and processing the meaning of it before speaking it to them. You think of not hurting them through your speech and not talk to them in honesty. They say things so they just don't hurt them. So donot talk or listen just for the sake of it, listen to them because you want to understand what is wrong with them, what is going on with them, what is going on with them.

Folks, when a person is mentally disturbed he needs first and foremost thing to be done by anyone close to him is tell him to talk his feelings out, thoughts, you listen to him try to understand why he is feeling like that, what is making him feel like that. All that person wants is only one person's attention, he wants that one person to understand him without much mumbling out the words. He wants that person to understand him just by his face expression of "being dull with a smile too". Then go and ask him "do you want to talk?" or "let it out man, I'm here to listen". Those words will mean the world to him.

Yes, it will also require courage from his side to speak everything he has to say, it is not easy for him. So you have to be patient with him. You got to wait for him to open up to you step-by-step if you think of helping him in healing up his wounds and filling up his emptiness with at least your presence and his familys'. You should encourage him more and more day-by-day to talk one thing daily may it be anything like, how he felt when he had attended school for the first time or how he was feeling today , like right now. It is upto you how to start; two ways starting it from rock-bottom or from up-front itself. People either feel bad about how they felt in their past days of life or the present situation they are in. It completely depends on us to understand it and start up the 'real talk' with them. Listening to them, and putting everything to understand what actually made them feel like this.

So this all can be done only with observing, talking, listening and understanding. Then supporting them. You see this all can be done only if you genuinely care for that person or else it will only remain as a responsibility which will never reap any fruits for you or them guys. Healing and supporting in healing the wounds needs just not talking, listening and understanding but also be affectionate to them, giving positive vibes to them. Start with observing then move to asking then to listening; later understanding and helping. If you honestly care enough for that person he will never feel left out but make sure to not make them dependent on you, a fine warning. A dependent nature of a person can cost you.

So at last, make them smile through your contagious smile. Spread positive vibes and make them calm most of the times. Make your mental health better so that world will look better to you.

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Love yourself.