“If we have time to get upset, we should have used that time to move on… Even if just one step forward!” -(Kise Ryouta)
Since it's a New Year, 2015, I thought it would be appropriate to talk about in this Words of Wisdom, about moving forward as well as its importance; nobody would want you to be reopening old wounds would they?
So to start, moving on is important, especially at this time of year since it's a new beginning; a fresh start, and a chance to just commence the New Year on a clean slate. Moving on enables you to better yourself; rather than holding yourself back and berating yourself. It is important as it will make you be able to think/worry about other things and keep you from blaming yourself time and time again. Not the healthiest or the best thing you should be doing to yourself. Hey, everyone makes mistakes, it's not possible NOT to, (unless you happen to be an Akashi... >~<) though what's important to remember is that it's not the mistake itself that defines you; it is how you get back up from it. A word from the wise ol' AnonymusLee ^^ (I wish lol xD)
Secondly in relation to getting back up, part of the process is accepting the fact that what is done is done, and there is no way you can change that. You can't possibly think about the past; how you could have done something differently because you now live in the present, now, so to speak, and unless a time machine has so fortunately been created, you're out of luck and will have no choice BUT to move on, and try to forget the probably embarrassing or idiotic act you did. Sorry. It happens to the best of us.
Also, you can't expect to have been able to make that choice or decision at that time in the past; right as of now, you have acquired new information that would have most likely helped you make the proper decision; something which you wouldn't have had back then and so therefore you made that stupid mistake of not studying before an exam, and as a consequence, you had to cram like, 5 seconds before the teacher told you to go in and do it. Talk about no pressure...
And lastly, crying won't get you anywhere. Yea I know we can't help it! you all may scream, and trust me I know... Try reading WinterRaineeDay's books and pfft you'll be out of tissues in minutes! Though maybe after you're done crying, (obviously not for days and days endlessly; have some sympathy for your eyes!) you should pick yourself up, and use the information gained from past experiences to better yourself, making yourself a more 'experienced, (for lack of a better word) and stronger person. As my mum always says, always come out with new information from an experience, no matter how small, you must acquire at least one new piece of information each time round in order to better yourself, and become even that little bit wiser.
Hope you guys have a great New Year, and all the best for 2015!!
This is AnonymusLee signing out!
By: AnonymusLee
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“Fear isn’t a bad thing. There are some things that can only be done by cowards.” - (Izuki Shun)
If there's something that honestly irritates me enough to make me snap, it's when people try pressuring others into doing something they don't want to by making remarks about being a coward, or a 'chicken' or a baby or the like.
Being scared isn't always a bad thing, because sometimes there are things that only those 'cowards' can do or consider in a situation.
Now Izuki Shun doesn't exactly get many decent lines, but this should definitely be one of them. Because being scared of something is like sensing danger, in a way. Naturally it makes one more cautious and less likely to do something they'll regret. I get that there are a lot of those typically anime/manga characters that act all tough and seemingly aren't scared of anything. I also get why a lot of people would admire those kinds of characters, but I myself always consider that a lack of fear means a lot more rash impulsiveness.
Don't get me wrong, there probably are a lot of situations in which impulsiveness could be a beneficial aspect or when it really is time to just drop of forget all plans and just act. And as somewhat of a coward, I applaud the people who can put aside the majority of potentially horrific consequences and simply act as they see fit to. There will be times when this can come in handy, but one must always remember that there will be moments where you do actually need to fearfully consider the facts. Some moments in which rushing forward rashly won't do anything but further agitate the problem and can cause more harm than good.
Fear itself is typically defined as the feeling of anxiety when considering possible outcomes of a situation or for the safety of someone. Has it never really occurred to those who carelessly call others 'cowards' or 'chickens', that maybe those people actually scared are the ones actually worrying about the consequences? Fear will be what encourages people to be more careful. It could also potentially be what prevents someone from doing something that they could majority regret doing later.
There are a lot of people who will go to unnecessary means to appear stronger in front of others. They will try aimlessly to 'prove themselves' in front of people by doing relatively stupid things, maybe by simple things like taking that cigarette offered to you by your friend in the alleyway, or maybe even by pretty major things like joining your friends on that joyride in some random car you found and hot-wired.
So maybe I might be wandering a little off topic and venturing into the 'peer pressure' talk, but fear isn't always something that should always be looked down on. The people scared or reluctant to do something are probably being intelligent and realising that what they are about to do could be potentially something to regret for the immediate or distant future. And frankly, if you're the one trying to pressure your friend into doing something they obviously really don't want to do, then maybe you should consider that maybe rather than just trying to look brave, you should maybe think a little more about what's keeping your friend from just joining you and going along with it.
Okay so there probably will be some cases when people will just be kind of reluctant to do things relating to personal phobias. I'm not saying that you shouldn't go out and try things that might put you out of your own comfort zone, but I will tell you not to ignore feelings of fear. Because fear means that you are actually thinking, and considering possible outcomes for a situation, and fear could be what prevents you from doing something that you might majorly regret yourself.
Being scared of something or of doing something isn't always a bad thing, because it is true that there will be some things that only those fearful could be able to do or consider. Being scared doesn't automatically make you a coward, because there could be cases when fear is what makes you intelligent.
By: Anonymous
