KISSING
Yes kissing, the little harmless gesture of putting lips together. It is perhaps the first and clearest sign, you will get, that the relationship is changing. It is for this reason that some men steer clear of any kinds of kissing. But because I know that kissing is such a deeply passionate act, that often inflames the passions of a woman, leading to nirvana like experiences for you, I recommend that kissing only be done in the context of sexual activity. It should NEVER be done in meet and depart circumstances. Yes, a simple peck goodbye could be the opening that your outside woman is looking for.
CUDDLING
After a good round or two of rigorous sex, men are famous for falling asleep. I know we work long hours, and servicing at least two women has its challenges, but some women's pussies are like Nyquil - put your ass fast asleep. As a general rule, the sweeter the pussy, the more Nyquil it contains, and as such, the more dangerous it is, because when your ass falls asleep, she doesn't, and when your comfortable ass rolls in your sleep, and lazily drapes a hand over her midsection, she interprets this as you exposing your hidden feelings for her. You wake up spooning, and before long, one night she's telling you...let's just hug and sleep. And you, with your tired ass think...what a great idea. No dummy, she is in the red zone, about to score a touchdown on your ass, and you are going to lose the game.
QUESTIONS
How are your kids? How is the wife? Did you have a good weekend at the beach with your family?
Yes, simple innocuous questions like these, are the outside woman's way of testing the strength of your armour. Remember, it is a battle, a subtle battle that you wage each and every day, with your outside woman. You have to remember this. But don't let her define the terms of the war; you are in charge, and the appropriate response to questions, like that, are to brush them off, and ignore them with a smile.
This way, she gets the hint and there is no tension left over from you lecturing her about her questions and her attempts to violate the Outside Woman's Bill of No Rights.
AN OCCASION SLIP
Different from an occasional slip, an occasion slip only has to happen once, and you are in deep water over your head. If all is clearly understood, a good outside woman knows that she won't be seeing you for Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's, and any other man and woman or family occasion. But the stealthy invader that she is, she knows that you two, celebrating her birthday, does not violate your rules about other occasions. This is an opening that they are going to use.
So what do you do? Very early on, in the stage when you two are getting to know one another, when she tells you her birth date, you tell her how ironic, it's my daughter's birth date as well. No children; then tell her it's your favourite niece's birthday, or your goddaughter's. The point is, to plant early on in the relationship, or potential relationship, the seeds that allow you, her birthday out... without the tension.
I will discuss in more detail later on, when we get to strategies, tactics and story foreshadowing.
Now, it must be a child's birthday, because one; it creates in the outside woman's mind, an impression that he cares about kids - always a good thing - and two, it creates a "connection" between you two. Women are so into that kind of shit. Do not, under any circumstances, say it's your mom's birthday, your sister's, or your wife's.
Even if it is, use a kid, because that connection can be perceived as weird, and most women have all kinds of unwritten, irrational rules of engagement when it comes to other women's men. As i said above, women are into crazy shit. Telling her she and your wife have the same birthday, will have her thinking, they are both soul sisters, and that the universe would punish her for doing so, because it gave her a 'sign', and she ignored it.
