I AM A WRITER. Let me repeat. I AM A WRITER. And yes Christopher P. Nokio is a nome de plume. Pinocchio – the story teller who grows with each story told – get it?
I stress this because some of you can not divorce, (pun intended), a writer and their subject material. So if you feel the need to heap scorn on me, for what I have written, and to pass judgement on me as an individual, by asking me, and or insisting that I have to be a serial cheater, in order to have written about it. Let me share this.
Thomas Harris, the guy who wrote Silence of the Lambs, was not, to my knowledge, a serial killer, like his character Hannibal Lecter in the book.
If this were so for all writers, then Stephen King would be an alien, monster, clown, killing children for fun, and JK Rowling would be the dumbest wizard imaginable. I kid Ms. Rowling.
Now, don't get me wrong. I am not, by any stretch of the imagination, making comparisons of myself to these great writers, based on skill and accomplishments. I am merely pointing out the consistency of my position, that I am a writer, writing on a topic, and I should not be held to a different standard, based on the topic I chose to write on.
Put simply, please do not ask me any silly questions about my role in this topic, as you are likely to hear more of my colourful language.
I wrote this handbook in what I believe to be an honest, open look, at an age old topic. My observation is that most other publications on this subject matter, looked at it from a moral positioning, that was more interested in the cause.
I chose to deal with the issue, as it presents itself, without passing judgement, or condoning behaviour detailed.
I stand firm in my belief that art is reflective, and not instructive. And that, in order to move ahead on any topic, it is necessary to expose its underbelly, no matter how uncomfortable it makes us. To do otherwise just simply scratches the surface and is not solutions oriented.
It is my ultimate hope that this publication, along with me inviting you to contact me at my Facebook account Timothy Christopher P Nokio, will serve to foster open and honest debate on the issue of relationships. Historically, it has been the only way to effectively deal with any issue.
