This makes getting over someone so much harder. You brain focuses on all the good times; you remember the way they looked at you, the feeling of butterflies in your stomach, how you spent that day with them and it was the happiest you'd ever been.
It's okay. You don't have to forget these memories to move on. They're a part of you.
Hopefully after a while, you won't feel a pain in your chest when you think of these memories.
Allow yourself to feel these things for a while, but you need to be strong to let go. You need to help yourself move on so you don't get stuck in a nostalgic limbo.
Remind yourself of the reasons why you left. Write them down if that helps. You can make new memories. You have your whole life left to do so. You will find someone else.
Everyone is capable of showing love. Everyone has a good side; however, that's not all you need to look for. Love and happiness is important of course, but don't excuse the unkind things they did and romanticise the few good times.
You need to remember you don't miss them, you miss you who thought they were, who they could've been. Dwelling on the past seems comforting at times; so find what works for you.
Distract yourself
Talk to your friends
Work out
Cry it out
Watch a film ( not a sad romantic one)
Play with your dog
Read
Cook
Personally, I found talking to my friends helpful. We shared our experiences and I found comfort in the fact that I'm not alone and it's okay and normal to feel like this, to feel nostalgic.
Healing takes time.
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How to mend a broken heart
Non-FictionFor the first time in my life, I experienced heart break. This is a journal where I document how I feel and how I'm getting through it. I'm hoping this will be a sort of "how to get over someone" and I hope this helps someone else as well.
