𝓫𝓪𝓭 𝓵𝓲𝓪𝓻 [ MULTIPLE]

seventy-nine

TRIGGER WARNING: MENTIONS OF ABUSE

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(in case you can't see the photos)

matilde paes bragança and how i firmly believe she deserves the world

I feel like I might be a bit late to the party, but I had this overwhelming need to express my opinion on this. 

As most of us, I found myself scrolling though my social media, quite bored, yesterday. And what I found were most of my followers talking about Matilde Paes and Sebastian Stan. Now, I don´t live under a rock, I knew those two had dated and I somewhat knew they were no longer a thing. But not much else. Until yesterday I saw someone calling him abusive. And so I took it upon myself to do some research, because calling someone abusive without any reasoning is something no one should do.

I must say I was surprised and quite shocked. The whole story is awful. We’re talking about a woman who has openly admitted to dealing with depression, bipolarity and suicidal thoughts (and actions, as I’ve read she’s attempted twice), who has been used by all her exes and who apparently has gone on a long journey to heal. And there here comes a man, who while she’s at her low gives her attention and love. Makes her feel safe and cherished. They spend two years together. And then he cheats, claims she did too and moves on with the woman he cheated with, while apparently rubbing it in her face (as I read in her Instagram post). 

Months later, he lets it slip that it was a PR Relationship, gone forward despite her lack of knowledge (or as typical in these situations, a contract - I read the court transcipt, this one was released by the NYC DA’s office). The whole story changes. I myself have been throught an emotionally abusive relationship (as many of you know, for many years) yet this one left me completely destroyed just to read. 

He took blatant advantage of her.He made profit of her image, he used her body and mind, he made her believe he loved her, that she was safe with him. He kept a lie going for more than two years. On her court statements (and proof that was disvulged by the DA - honesly go check. they reached a settlement, case closed, they were able to release the info) she litteraly talks of how he would constantly talk of a future together, how he made her promise upon promise. and then she also mentions her other relations, how he’d slithered into all her contacts with friends and family. Not a single friend he didn’t insist on meeting, on making sure they knew they were together. It broke my heart to read her say she hadn’t minded - apparently her bf had some commitment issues. And he took advantage of the damage caused by previous relations. 

Their settlement was really clear - “our client [Ms Paes Bragança] asks only that Mr. Stan publicly reveals the situation to the world, clearing her name after all the damage he’s done to her image (...)”. HE KNEW SHE’D BE WATCHING. HE LITERALLY SPECIFIED THE DAY AND HOUR HE’D BE DOING IT. HE KNEW HE COULD CONTINUE TO MESS WITH HER EVEN FROM AFAR. 

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a.n.: my commitment to this book is so big i made a Tumblr account just to write and post that.

i know this has been a hard read. i know this wasn't what you expected for this book. if at any moment it becomes to much for you pls don't continue to read. your mental health comes first.