How to Move Forward

ENTERTAIN YOURSELF

Most of the people when they are in their brokenness season or experiencing certain problems, they didn't know what they're going to do, they are stuck, and the worst thing here is, they are letting their problem to devour them completely, to the point that they are getting out of themselves.

Well, all of the people have different strategies on how they will overcome their struggles in life. Some of them are just laughing their situation, drinking alcohol, cry at night, listen to music, write a poetry, and etc. Maybe some people can easily solve their handicaps while others cannot. It is not easy to say the words "forget and move on". It takes a lot of time to heal wound but, it also takes a lot of steps too. If you don't have any plans to move now, then when? When the day suddenly come and you have nothing? When you are completely drained? While it is still early, we must need to make some actions, just like having a fresh of wound, you need to put a remedy first or else it will get worse.

Entertaining yourself can alleviate your pain. You don't need to quicken your healing process, but we can lessen the pain that you have got from your past by entertaining yourself. Before, when I need to forget some person who hurt me, I asked one of my best-friend, "How did you overcome rejections and pain in your life?", and he answered me "Just entertain yourself". I really didn't know before how will I continue my life again and when will I start again because it feels like I'm carrying the whole damn world, it is very heavy. In fact, the only thing that I did before is surfing in the internet. It's not productive. Then I've realized, I shouldn't always be like this. I need to take some actions to lessen my pain, Therefore I've decided to write a poem. Poetry saved me when no one else can. I poured all the pain, tears, and my resentment in writing poetry. And now, I'm writing this book to help you to move forward. Here are the some simple steps on how to move forward, just follow the STOP, LOOK, AND LISTEN steps.

Stop

Stop for a while, give yourself a break, and reminisce all your habits that you are doing before. Think about all the things that you want to do or you want to discover. It's easier for the people who have good habits to step forward, but don't lose hope, if you do not have any habit, then make your own habit. Cogitate all the things that are making you happy and make it as your agenda every day. Before it will call a "habit", you need to do it for at least three months. Writing a poem is not my habit before. In fact, I'm in 4 months of writing poetry. This is not yet your demise part of your life. You have a chance if you want to change your lifestyle and make good habits.

Look

Look for the people who can help you. Make a conversation with them, have some talks about your lives, or seek for the person who is willing to listen to your problems, or to your rants. Seek your "all ears" friend, your home buddy. If it is not okay for you to look for a friend, you can look for the things that you want. You may watch a movie at Netflix, funny videos at YouTube and Tiktok. You may also watch your favorite Korean Drama. Watch motivational videos or worship videos, like the videos of Jentezen Franklin. You have a lot of things that you can do. Do not stuck up yourself on the things that doesn't create a value to yourself. It's time for you to look on the things that can create a genuine smile to your face because you also deserve to be happy. Seek God, look forward, and move forward.

Listen

Listen to some advices that can help you to move forward. The advices from your parents or from your friends will not make sense if you are not listening to them. They may be the messenger of God, for you to know that you need to move little by little. Yes! Little by little, because you cannot move forward in one sitting only.

Listening to music can also help you in moving forward, but you need to choose a music that will lifts you up like worship songs or inspirational songs. One of my favorite song is the song of Neyo entitled "Miss Independent". It portrays a woman who can walk like a boss, talk like a boss, and can pay her bills on time. When I'm listening to that song, I am imagining myself that I'm the woman in the song, an independent woman.

It's okay to listen to others, it's okay to listen to music, but you must also try to listen to the voice of God. He heard all your fallen tears at night. He saw your heavy pain in your heart. And now, He wants to help you, just listen to Him.