CONNECTIONS

Twin flames connection

I feel like writing this chapter now as a way to express my feelings. I read that writing about feelings is a good way to practice mindfulness; it is therapy strategy. Perhaps, I can help someone with it.

First of all, some features in order to understand everything:

1. Among people who have already met their twin flame, most of them share some characteristics: a) they come from a narcissistic and a codependent marriage; b) they have conditions, like Asperger, autism spectrum, schizophrenia, borderline...; c) they have problems with attachment; d) their previous stories were similar to other relationships' stories.

2. There're always a chaser and a runner.

Runner > always ghosts, ignores, rejects due to insecurities and past wounds that need to be healed. They need self-love or tolerance with themselves. They can create fake accounts to know what the other one is doing like an invisible mask or cape.

Chaser > they also need self-love and acknowledge their own worth. This person does not understand why others do not see their counterpart in the way they do. The chaser stalks the other TF's karmic partner as well.

Both TF can be runners and chasers. And the process is endless until both TF are aware of this and are willing to do things. Also, we repeat the process in order to understand each other's position. Like in my case, I have had to live situations from his point of view, but totally different (in different circumstances) and now I understand that I should not have made him uncomfortable; he was in a risky position and, thanks God, he survived, whereas I could manage my emotions the best I could.

This can be a toxic at first if you don't get to know all of this, but once you notice all of this, it gets better and, after reading for the umpteenth time that you need separation in order to heal your past wounds, you start loving yourself. But the way to love yourself is to be brave and step out of your comfort zone so as to spread love and forgive people.

How they fell in love: one of them has the feeling of having his breathe taken away in contact with the other, while the other one apparently feels a bomb of emotions out of the sudden. And it cannot be stopped.

3. It's a process where you'll lose people, money and stuff, but "everything you lose is a step you take" (Swift, 2022). It gets lonely and tiring, but it's so beautiful at the same time. Many people have lost their homes, their jobs, their families, because they were intoxicating to their soul.

4. Separation is needed so that both of them grow and step out of comfort zone in order to heal themselves.

5. Karmic partners or relationships complicate the process. They are needed though in order to learn lessons. It can be spouses, relatives, coworkers... This does not mean karmic people should always be blocked though. It depends, but I will explain about it later.

6. The process of chasing/running can last as long as both TF are willing to fight and heal themselves (as much as possible, because it's also known that in union they still need to fight some battles). 

7. It's the most beautiful experience, but at the same time, it's the hardest and the most painful. It's been said that soulmates (referring to Twin Flames; I'll make a distinction between them later on) are a blessing and a curse. Anyway, when you discover this thing, you start to understand things, the good and the bad ones. 

8. Sometimes you think you're ready but you still need things to do first, like taking care of your physical health (it's great to have inner peace and bodies shouldn't matter, but it is somehow relevant in order to increase your self-esteem) or just trusting the process. 

9. The best way to inspire is to surrender (acknowledging you don't fully know what's gonna happen, yet not fully giving up hope) and to continue sending positive vibes when the other person needs it.

10. The soul bond is unbreakable. Maybe there're few exceptions, but it's very hard to do that.

11. If you feel nervous or other feeling, the other person for some reason starts to feel it too. So both energies have to be balanced. This way there can be a reunion. Without fear, despair or anything. Just calmed. As much as possible.

12. Some twin flames end up together in another lifetime, others end up getting married and others just end up in good terms but cannot be in a physical realm together. Deep down you know.

13. They become one soul in heaven.

14. You feel like you're recognizing yourself.

15. In my case, I have seen him on a mirror.

16. Sometimes it has felt like dissociation. I don't know about that.

17. They inspire you to become your best version of yourself

18. You feel it in your stomach and in your heart. That's why they're treasures of life.

19. IMPORTANT > If they're in toxic surroundings, it can be very toxic.