My Abusive Ex

Chapter 14

20th April 2015

Dear Mr Woodward

Ref: CB/MB/POULSON

My last correspondence to you was 1st November 2014, a little under 6 months. The object of today's letter is to adapt the agreement between Mr Poulson and myself and formalise it.

As I stated to you some seven months ago (during our first correspondence Sept 2014) your client put forward a proposal that had already been put in place (March 2014). It provided regular access that met with the needs of the children.

However, I did also state that Mr Poulson finds it extremely difficult to make arrangements and stick to those arrangements. And in the past six months this has continued.

· Mr Poulson stated that he did not know what dates I was taking the children on holiday, despite me including the information in my first letter to yourself (dated 25th September 2014)

· Mr Poulson had five weeks to organise a bedroom for the children. On 1st November I stated that he had until 10th December to ensure both children had their own bed in his house. I also stated that should Mr Poulson fail to provide evidence of the sleeping arrangements then the children would not stay overnight. Despite numerous reminders and assurances, on the 10th December 2014 Mr Poulson did not have a bed for both children.

· Mr Poulson advised me, on Christmas Day, that he didn't know what dates he had the children for over the Christmas period. Again, despite this information clearly being set out in correspondence from myself to you.

· February half term was arranged in accordance of Mr Poulson's request of two months advance warning. It was all agreed and arranged in November. One week before the half term he cancelled the arrangement.

· On 18th January I requested a particular weekend in March that I wanted to have with the children and I offered Mr Poulson an alternative. This was in accordance with my own suggestions that should a weekend be changed then I would give Mr Poulson at least four weeks' notice. Mr Poulson agreed. On the day of collection, Mr Poulson stated he was changing the agreement. I advised your client that this was not possible. Mr Poulson went on to accuse me of abandoning my children for four days.

· Easter Monday, Mr Poulson, sent a text at 2pm to tell me the children would be home by 5pm. I advised Mr Poulson that I was out and the arrangement and agreed time of return was 6pm and I was unable to change that. Again, a lot of pressure from your client for me to be home. He stated that he was leaving at 4pm and I would be in. I had to continue to tell your client the children could be returned at the agreed time.

· STILL having had no request for time with the children over ANY school holidays I advised Mr Poulson that should he wish to have the children during the Easter holidays then as long as his days didn't clash with plans we had that was fine.

Mr Poulson advised he would collect the children on Thursday 16th April and have a slightly longer weekend. At 7:35 16/04/15 Mr Poulson cancelled. He advised he would collect the children the following day (17/04/15).

On Saturday 18th April, at around 8am, I was advised my children were coming home. Again, the arrangement was they were due home on the Sunday 19th April at 6pm. Your client, again, threatened to drive to my house and sit outside in his car until I was home.

Following advice from the Police I contacted Mr Poulson's parents (as a form of mediation). Within minutes of contacting them Mr Poulson advised me that he would stick to the agreement. But Sunday evening (19/04/15) at 18:08 I received a text saying they were just leaving his home, 8 minutes after they were due back.