Framed

How to deal with rejection, abandonment, deception

These challenges come in many forms in life, including job, relationships, family, and friendship. The first thing is to acknowledge the pain and manage your emotions. The second is to ask yourself a real and honest question: Do you want to die for someone or something that does not value you? Do you want to lose yourself for someone who discarded you as if you were nothing? Think about it. The person who treats you like trash is living and thriving, while you are suffering. To them, you are already gone, so please, move on as well.

I used to say that it's easier to say "move on" than to actually do it. I am not going to lie; it was very hard. But now, it is easier to move on than to say it. The story I just shared involves rejection, abandonment, deception, and more. I have faced other challenging situations in my life. As a teenager without my parents, I needed help and guidance from adults, but they rejected me. Despite this, I persevered and graduated, and I aim to pursue my studies further.

I've heard worse stories where women were left at the altar, discovered their future husbands cheated or left them right before the wedding, and other shocking tales when I thought I had heard it all. There are also people who are lucky in love. Yes, a few of them are truly happy, but I assure you, most of them are unhappy in their marriages for decades. They are not very lucky.

While I was in school, I worked part-time at a nice job. However, I was fired for unfair reasons right after this awful breakup. Meanwhile, I hadn't saved any money, having spent it all on him. What I want to convey is that jobs do not care about you either. After graduation, my field is very competitive. I've met bosses who praised my work and said they would use it as an example in the future, but they would not hire me. Does this mean it is my fault? Rejection is always a form of protection, and there is always something better waiting for you.

I have also encountered people who rejected me because they believed I was not on their level due to my higher education. However, I know what it takes to complete your studies, and for that reason, I do not see myself as better than anyone else.

There are also times when I think I will not be chosen because of my accent. Sometimes I feel like asking them, "How many languages do you speak?" Studies show that people who know multiple languages have great memories.

All of these examples show that you should not take rejection personally. Most of the time, it is not your fault but rather their insecurities. There are many books available on dealing with rejection, and talking to a good friend or seeking professional help can also be beneficial. Additionally, if you have any hobbies or pastimes, engage in them. Personally, I enjoy arts, crafts, and skating. Everyone is different; I do not talk to someone or engage in my pastimes to get over something or someone. They did not work for me. When I am doing something I like, it's usually when I am happy; I do not do them to make me happy. What has helped and saved me is spirituality. Everyone has different beliefs. The main question to ask yourself is: Do you want to suffer for someone who treated you like garbage while they are living their life? God gave you life, not people.