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18. Not backing down on my daughter's teachers calling her the proper name.

AITA for not backing down on my daughter’s teachers calling her the proper name?

My daughter, Alexandra (14F), hates any shortened version of her name. This has gone on since she was about 10. The family respects it and she’s pretty good about advocating for herself should someone call her Lexi, Alex, etc. She also hates when people get her name wrong and just wants to be called Alexandra.

She took Spanish in middle school. The teacher wanted to call all students by the Spanish version of their name (provided there was one).

I don't understand this.

I probably wouldn't answer, 'cause I wouldn't hear it as my name and ignore it even if not on purpose.

(Ok, I went to search mine because I was curious and it would be Miguela (I don't like it) or Micaela (which is also a variant of my name in my own language))

So, she tried to call Alexandra, Alejandra. Alexandra corrected her and the teacher respected it.

As she should.

She had the same teacher all 3 years of middle school, so it wasn’t an issue.

Now, she’s in high school and is still taking Spanish. Once again, the new teacher announced if a student had a Spanish version of their name, she’d call them that.

I really don't see the point tbh.

So, she called Alexandra, Alejandra. Alexandra corrected her but the teacher ignored her.

Fuck off.

My daughter came home upset after the second week. I am not the type of mom to write emails, but I felt I had to in this case.

I'm with you. Your daughter is clearly upset, let mama bear outside!

If matters, this teacher is not Hispanic herself, so this isn’t a pronunciation issue. Her argument is if these kids ever went to a Spanish speaking country, they’d be called by that name.

The fuck? That's one of the most insane thing I read...

It doesn't work like that.

I found this excuse a little weak

Completely weak*

as the middle school Spanish teacher actually was Hispanic who had come here from a Spanish speaking country and she respected Alexandra’s wishes.

The teacher tried to dig her heels in,

Why did she care so much?

but I said if it wasn’t that big a deal in her eyes that she calls her Alejandra, why is it such a big deal to just call her Alexandra? Eventually, she gave in. Alexandra confirmed that her teacher is calling her by her proper name.

Good.

My husband feels I blew this out of proportion

Nope.

and Alexandra could’ve sucked it up for a year

Oh, fuck off.

(the school has 3 different Spanish teachers, so odds are she could get another one her sophomore year).

AITA?

NTA.

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r/AmItheAsshole
u/Sudden-Difference767