AITA? Reaction

22. Exposing coworker after he exposed her.

AITA for exposing my coworker after he exposed me?

Depends. What did you do? What did he do?

I (28F) have been in a happy and committed throuple for about three years now. It's unconventional, but it works for us. I also enjoy posting on a social media platform that's more on the "mature" side-think Facebook, but for adults who like to talk about NSFW topics and post NSFW pictures. My face isn't visible in any of the pictures and I never talk about my job on there, so I didn't think it would ever be an issue at work especially because our job doesn't have a morality clause.

Even if your job have a policy, as long as they can't know it's you it shouldn't be a problem. (As far as I know).

One of my coworkers, "Jake" (34M), recently found my profile on this site. Jake has always been a bit too friendly, making suggestive comments and flirting with me despite knowing I'm not interested.

I already hate him.

I've turned him down countless times, but he just doesn't take the hint. He thinks that just because I'm poly I want to be with him.

Fucking asshole.

Instead of keeping his discovery to himself, Jake took screenshots of my posts and ran to HR,

NTA. I hope you get him fired.

This bitch.

Too pissy because you turned him down.

accusing me of "unbecoming internet activity" that could damage the company's reputation.

How? They don't know it's you.

I got called into a meeting with HR, and honestly, I was terrified. However, after reviewing the posts, HR told me that because my face wasn't visible and there was nothing identifying the company, it wasn't their concern and was my own personal business.

Exactly!

They assured me that no action would be taken against me and that I hadn't violated any policies. My direct boss said that the meeting was more toward me that Jake was sharing my privatepictures in the workplace.

This just because you don't want to fuck with him?

Even though I was cleared, I still felt humiliated that my private life had been dragged into work like this. And I was beyond angry that Jake tried to get me in trouble over something that had nothing to do with him.

He's just a pissy little old man that can't accept a "no" as an answer.

Here's where I might be the asshole. After that HR meeting, I was still fuming. I knew Jake was married

EVEN WORSE.

and had heard rumors about him cheating on his wife with another woman in the office.

I'm not so surprised.

I also had a bunch of inappropriate messages he'd sent me, including some sent during work hours, which I hadn't done anything about until now.

GO GIRL!

Instead of going back to HR, I decided to take matters into my own hands. I found Jake's wife on social media and anonymously sent her all the screenshots of his messages to me, along with some information about his affair.

YES! I LOVE YOU!

I literally found his profile and his mistress' profile on the SAME site he said was 'unbecoming' and sent her the links to both. I figured if he wanted to dig into my private life, he should face the consequences of his own actions.

I love petty revenge.

It didn't take long for everything to blow up. Jake's wife confronted him, and now she's filed for divorce.

YES!

Word spread around the office, and Jake is absolutely furious with me, saying I ruined his marriage and made his life hell. Some of my coworkers think I went too far l

Nah.

and should have just let it go,

After he tried to fire her? HELL NAH!

but others believe he got what he deserved for trying to get me in trouble over something that was none of his business.

THIS!

So, AITA?

NTA.

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