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Great Advice from people on Facebook in Venting Groups. Not towards me

These are what people have said to other people's Facebook venting replies. It's not aimed at me but I found it very helpful. Based on their comments. Just wanted to clarify with this. 

"Takes a lot to realize what's going on around you, when you're blinded by how they used to treat you."

"Maybe don't talk to her and leave her alone?? You sound very needy and dramatic."

"Sometimes space is all it takes for you to see someone for who they really are, it happened to me."

"Try and think how you act around others and see if you can pinpoint what you are doing for people to act that way."

"You have to take care of yourself to not be what you never want to be TO them and that's the only way you can have any chance to still be able to be there FOR them. But you are the only one that HAS to decide and do what you need to do for yourself to stay healthy and capable of being happy. It's not easy. But it's okay and will only fester into toxic if you can't accept that letting them do what they need to do for themselves to be happy and healthy should make you happy that they were able to tell you. Or vice versa, whatever the case is/was. If you love them, you want them to be happy. Even when it's not with you. It sucks eggs. Trust me, I'm telling you out of experience. It's probably going to hit you randomly really hard and make you heartbreakingly sad. Just remember that it's what was needed one way or another."

"Ask him to no longer contact you or go to your home. Say you do not feel safe with his threats. Block him. If he contacts, you file a police report"

"I allow a second chance, JUST IN CASE there was a miscommunication. But you're done after that. Gave away too many extra chances these past few years."

"You're one of the lost then found people. You have to lose something to find out why it was important to you. You don't know how to appreciate someone when you have them. So, learn from this and be better."

"If they ghosted you that long ago, and you aren't over it, I'm sorry but I don't think you should. It may just lead you to further heart break if they haven't tried contacting you since. Do something for yourself and find a way to forget them. Others may share their experiences here, or you can look up online forums on how others have dealt with it, or the advice given to them."

 "If you know he's actively online and ignoring you, remember 'no response is a response'. He's ignoring you, because he wants to. Trust me, I've been there It's a narcissistic manipulation tactic, to keep you dangling there."