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Great Advice from people on Facebook in Venting Groups. Not towards me

These are what people have said to other people's Facebook venting replies. It's not aimed at me but I found it very helpful. Based on their comments. Just wanted to clarify with this. 

I hate my ex girlfriend. She is the most selfish person I have ever met. We lived in an apartment together. The apartment has a no smoking policy. I had told her numerous times not to smoke in the apartment and she didn't listen. My ex girlfriend is the type of person who does whatever she wants and doesn't care about how her behavior and choices affect other people. To top it all off she moved her family into my apartment against my wishes even though I told her that I could be at risk of getting evicted. Again she didn't care and let them live there anyway. I should also mention that her family brought a cat with them. I was harboring 4 unwanted guests and an unwanted animal in a one bedroom apartment. I should also mention that my ex girlfriend and her family asked me for money constantly. I tried telling them that I couldn't afford to keep loaning them money but they didn't care as long as they got what they wanted. They would threaten me anytime I told them no. I should also mention that my girlfriend and her family don't have jobs. They would just lounge around my apartment all day watching tv and eating my food while I was working my but off skipping meals and living paycheck to paycheck. I so fed up with them leeching off me that I called my parents and asked for advice on how to deal with them. They suggested calling the police to get them removed. My parents came over that next day and they called the police. The police didn't do anything because my ex girlfriend had squatters rights which I think is Bs. I ended up breaking the lease and moving back in with my parents temporarily. Thanks to the damage my ex girlfriend and her family caused I now owe the apartment complex $2,870. It is unfair that I am the one being punished for other people's selfish actions. I hope my ex girlfriend and her family go back to prison.

We're not necessarily friends, maybe we are, we don't know, but even so, from time to time we are together, other times we fight alone, and other times we walk away forever, no one knows the right answer, I only know that life is about experiences.

Okay, I don't understand how I AM in the wrong and how I AM the bad person in this situation.

My so-called best friend, all because she doesn't like the guy I've been with, and I told her that she needed to respect my relationship. She has a man that takes good care of her, spoils her and does EVERYTHING for her. 

My boyfriend is a good guy and has treated me well since we've been together, and I have literally never felt so loved by someone like him before. Before to an abusive alcoholic cheating narcissistic manipulative piece of shit and I definitely wasn't going to end up with another one in my life. She basically doesn't like him because she didn't choose him for me, and I confided in her with a COUPLE of fights we got into over the past DECADE. I thought her being my best friend she would just do what a normal best friend would do, listen and maybe give out advice, but no. She held it over his head and gave herself ammo to not like him. 

Last spring, we were talking, and she started saying things about my boyfriend. I've had enough of it, I was tired of not ever being able to talk about my boyfriend without her saying some unnecessary snarky shit about him. So I told her " Look you know what, this whole thing that you have against my boyfriend is petty as hell and whatever problem you have with him you need to drop it, he hasn't done anything to YOU or ME for you to be this way about him. I'm not dealing with the constant put downs about him" 

She hasn't talked to me since what kind of "best friend" does that shit? So now I literally have zero friends all because I stood my ground. 

This was for me that an admin replied back to me

If it's a "leave me alone" from a single person.... They're probably not mentally stable or meant just as a "for now"... As for "leave me and my boyfriend alone" (or any variant) and one party is still messaging you then it's a controlling relationship....