This year I started getting really close to a boy and we became best friends. Now all of our friends and classmates tease us constantly. Our friends outright claim they can tell we're in love with each other. They just up and assume things. I personally don't know how to feel about him. He asks me if I'm jealous when he talks to other girls or the girls talk to me about how huge of a crush they have on him. I tell him no every time, but it's just that I don't bother to consider the possibility of him being any more than a friend. I talked to one of my other close friends who doesn't know him and I haven't seen face to face for three years, but talk to on the phone a lot. She thinks it's strange how often he asks if I like him and says I should ask him because she suspects he's asking because she thinks he likes me. Problem is, I like having him as a friend and don't want to risk losing him completely if we were to be more than friends and wind up breaking up or something. It's just one of those things where there's no real going back. I'd feel terrible if he did like me that way, though, because then it would mean I'm hurting him by just being friends. I just don't know how to feel any more. Half of me wants to just stop being friends or anything because it's really stressful anymore.
This can be a confusing place to be at with a boy. Believe me, I'm in a similar position right now! You need to ask yourself what you really want. Forget what your friends think should happen or what he wants from you. If you think that you have genuine feelings for this boy and think that you want to be more than friends then go for it! If he asks you out and you decide that you would rather stay friends then you need to tell him. Trust me, it's better than leading him on and letting him think he has a chance! Sit down with him somewhere where you two can talk in private (not while you're with friends or via text messaging!) like a coffee shop or park and tell him that you value your friendship with him and that you would be afraid that dating would ruin that. Don't force yourself to date someone just because your friends or classmates say that you should! :) Hope I was helpful!
My best friend always calls or texts me and wants to rant about whatever is going on in her life. I always listen because I want to be a good friend. However, whenever I have a bad day and want to rant about it she gets in a hurry to get off the phone or tells me I'm being a grouch and to talk to her when I'm in a better mood. It's frustrating because sometimes I just need someone to listen whenever I need to talk. I'm always there for her but when I need her to be there for me she never is. What should I do?
It's always hard to deal with a fair-weather friend, especially when you are trying your hardest to be a good friend to them through thick and thin. You need to talk to your friend about what you're feeling. Be honest! Tell her you feel used and that you want someone to vent to as much as she does. Chances are she doesn't even realize she's hurting you. Don't let it go, otherwise you will end up holding your anger inside and eventually resenting her even more than you do now. Talking about it will help release the anger and frustration that could potentially ruin a really great friendship if you keep it inside! Good luck!
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