Sex.
It's not disgusting. It's not deadly. It's not unnatural.
In fact, sex is very natural. It's the same as a cross-country runner that loves doing sprints because it makes them happy. It's the same as a couple kissing and holding hands because it makes them happy. It's the same as a musician singing a song because it makes them fucking happy.
Sex means different things to everyone. That will always be true.
Just because it's extremely important and meaningful for you and you think it's better to wait until you're married to do it, doesn't mean you can criticise other people for doing it or thinking otherwise, and vice versa. That's like saying you're on a diet and then glaring at anyone that eats a bag of chips or a cookie because how dare they, right? Or loving junk food and telling someone they're disgusting for eating salads. Because that makes sense, right?
No. It doesn't make sense.
If two consenting (adult) people want to have sex with each other, then great, they can fucking have sex. If a married couple wants to have sex, then great, they can fucking have sex. If two friends are horny and want to get each other off because it's okay with both of them and they respect each other enough to share that kind of intimacy, then great, they can fucking have sex.
It's not your place to judge others for their actions, especially if it's something as simple as finding pleasure in another consenting person. As long as it's not rape, and all of the participants clearly agreed to do it, and it's safe and legal (like, it's not good to fuck someone if you know you have an STD and you don't discuss it with them first or something), then I don't see a problem with it.
You can wait until you're married to have sex.
You can have sex when you're drunk and horny and consenting.
You can have sex when you're dating someone and you both are ready to share that level of intimacy.
You can have sex with a man or a woman.
You can have rough sex, gentle sex, kinky sex, whatever you want.
As long as you're both consenting and it's safe (and legal), then you can do what you want, okay?
If a girl has had a lot of sexual partners in her life, then there's nothing wrong with it.
If a boy is in his twenties and still a virgin because he's waiting for the right one, then there's nothing wrong with it.
Don't call someone a prude for being abstinent.
Don't call someone a slut for being sexually active.
That would just mean that you lose, no matter what you do, and that's always a pretty dumb situation.
You can have whatever views you want on sex and it won't be wrong, as long as it's legal and doesn't go against morals.
And something that goes hand in hand with slut-shaming is kink-shaming. I see this a lot.
It's fine if threesomes aren't your thing, or if BDSM is not your cup of tea, or if crossdressing isn't something you're into.
It's just as fine if any of that stuff (and more) is.
Like I just said, as long as it's not like horribly immoral (like literally raping a six year old when you're twenty-three – that will always be a no-no in real life), it's fine, especially if it's just in the realm of fiction. If you see a fanfiction where Louis is wearing panties, then okay, that's fine. Read it if you like it, ignore it if you don't.
The same thing goes for ships. If you ship Elounor and see a Larry fanfiction, don't fucking go on chapter ten and say this is horrible, they're not gay, blah blah blah. You're absolutely entitled to have your own opinion, but shoving it down someone's throat to try to make them feel bad about their interests or thoughts is rude and inconsiderate. And vice versa. If you're a Larry shipper, don't go to an Elounor fanfiction and say this is gross, you're obviously a homophobe, or something. It's just as mean.
Even the more unusual ships shouldn't be shamed. I've seen fics with Nick Grimshaw and Zayn, or Ben Winston and Harry, or even Ke$ha and Harry, and while they're not exactly my cup of tea, it's none of my business what a person likes.
Honestly, people can be so fucking judgmental, it's impossibly frustrating and endlessly hypocritical. We all have different likes and dislikes, different interests and kinks, different lives and actions and thoughts and views, and no one should be fucking mocked, belittled, or insulted for any of them.
It just makes you look like a dick, okay?
