Here's a warning: 98% of you probably shouldn't read this since I know a lot of people won't agree with this one.
Seriously, I know some people will definitely disagree, so if you're an outspoken person or sensitive or something, idk, then just don't read, okay? Just ignore this. Seriously.
There's a difference between simply being honest and being mean.
A lot of people like to say they're just stating an opinion and being honest and such, and while I have no problem with that, there is a line. Being 'blunt and honest and just giving my opinion' turns into being 'needlessly rude and insensitive and then acting like it's no big deal.'
You can be honest and give your opinion while still being respectful. I don't care what your opinion is of something, everyone deserves the same amount of respect, and if you don't give someone that and try to pass it off as merely stating your opinion or just being honest, then I disagree with you.
There are a lot of things I don't like, and I'm an extremely opinionated person that believes in equality for everyone and that every person has the right to be true to themselves and voice their thoughts without judgment, but being rude is something I don't condone.
Harsh is not okay in my book. You can be blunt, but harsh isn't the equivalent. It doesn't mean the same thing. You may think harsh means honest, but it doesn't, it means rude in my eyes.
I believe everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but there are some thoughts that are better kept to ourselves because they can and will hurt, and warning about it doesn't make it okay. It just means you're acknowledging you're going to say something rude, yet you're going to do it anyway and excuse it as okay because you're 'just being honest' and 'I warned you' when that's actually not okay. If you knew you were going to say something mean, then you could have stopped yourself from saying it, and while that sounds like I'm saying you should silence all your thoughts and I'm contradicting your freedom of speech, try to think about it from this standpoint:
Random Person 1: "I'm going to say something mean and offensive."
Random Person 2: "Okay."
Random Person 1: "You're an ugly faggot."
Random Person 2: "Fuck you, that was unnecessary."
Random Person 1: "Don't be butthurt, I was just stating my opinion and being honest. You could have walked away when I said the first thing."
Can you see how that's a kind of shitty excuse?
Warning someone about something offensive doesn't make it okay to say the offensive thing anyway when you know and have acknowledged that it's going to be mean.
And in my opinion, acknowledging that it's mean and then saying or doing it anyway only makes it worse because you're consciously, intentionally being mean and hurtful when you didn't need to.
This probably made at least one person mad or upset, and some people probably think I'm a bitch now, and I'm sorry for offending you, but I won't apologise for this opinion of mine. I believe in respect and equality for everyone, and that means being kind to everyone you come across.
It's not okay to be mean, because no matter how you dress it up, it's still an insult.
