How to Date a Girl - A Gentleman's Guide

Chapter 3 - Is she The One?

A white-skinned sexy lady walks past you, and of course you suddenly turn towards her, examining her from head to toe. All of a sudden, something under your pants immediately stands into attention.

That's not love, that's Dove©. (Dove is a popular whitening soap, btw)

When you see a pretty girl and you want to talk to her - what do you do? The usual - and wrong - approach is to catcall her. "Hey there, sexy", "What's up, sweet cheeks", and even a sexy whistle will shoo her away. Be more subtle; show her that you have class. The proper way to do this is to tell her straight up that she's pretty and immediately apologize if you freaked her out, or may be use the indirect approach of asking what time it is. If she smiles at you, then there is a good chance that you can get to know her better. If not, tough luck. At least you tried.

Ask yourself a million times, is she really THE ONE? Because she might only arouse your Joe from below, and that's a whole different story. Make sure that you adore that girl because of some feeling that you just cannot put into words, not just because she has pretty eyes, curvy hips, or sexy legs.

Love her because of an unexplainable reason, and accept her for who she is. She might be a tad on the plus side, or just five feet tall, or kinda pimply, or she has an obsession with something that people aren't supposed to like, but she is what she is. You'll eventually realize that even with those, she's the perfect one for you.

If she instantly pops out of your mind at random times, or you can't stop smiling like an idiot because you start daydreaming about her, or you suddenly feel sad when she isn't talking to you, that's when you know that you are in love with her - that she is the missing piece you need, the song inside of you, you need to find her, gotta find her~

Ehem.. You may start feeling giddy when you are around her, or start to blabber random stuff and become extremely hyper when you talk to her, but try to control yourself. You like her, but you don't want her to know it just yet. Girls have this so-called 'woman's intuition' that is extremely scary because of its insane accuracy, and that intuition can detect if a guy has something more than the notion of friendship in his mind. Try to keep a very strict hold into those feelings for now, because revealing it without having the proper XP points will automatically result in failure.

You may also start to think that she is 'just a friend', someone that you care for because that is what friends are supposed to do. That's equivalent to Stage 4 cancer, my friend. That only proves that you really do like her. You will start to notice that you act differently around her; you start to be conscious of every move you make around her. If you start to think this way, then make time for yourself and think it through. If you do believe that you are only friends, then make sure that you stick to what you believe in. But, if your doubts are starting to come true, then ask yourself the title of this chapter. What you may find out about yourself may shock you - that you already love her a lot.

Guys nowadays, specifically fuckboys, tend to eyeball a girl and instantly say that she is their soulmate, then proceed to throw every pick-up line known to mankind. For handsome guys, there is a high chance that they can get away with it, but it is still a very improper move to do. There is this thing called "Getting to Know" phase, which will be covered in the next chapter. It is the phase wherein you befriend the girl, get to know her likes and dislikes, and find out who and how this girl has become throughout her life. A relationship is a step-by-step process, and jumping steps isn't going to make you more successful. Once you have determined that she is The One, the next part covers the next stages of development. Many will find it very bland and slow-paced, but making sure that you have done everything correctly and perfectly will surely win her over.