How to Date a Girl - A Gentleman's Guide

Chapter 9 - The sting of rejection

So you've put in every ounce of effort into your conquest, and planned up the exact day, time, place, and atmosphere for your confession. Then at last, you pop up the magical words... and she says no. 

Everything crumbles. All those hard work, and all for nothing. 

It's sad, but stand strong.

Pay close attention to her explanation if she rejects you.. if there is any. There lies the faults that you have that you should examine. If you can input your own information regarding the matter, then that is fine. But just remember - you have to respect her decision. She had thought her answer through. 

In the case that you got flat-out rejected and her answer being a no-brainer for her, then tough luck. There's no other explanation for it. You just lucked out. If you're ballsy enough, you can ask for a second chance, but chances are it's improbable. On the good side that she still talks to you after the rejection, then rejoice and enjoy the moment. Maybe the love that you feel for her won't die down soon, but if you're courageous enough, try again. There's no shame in trying again, especially if you feel that passionately about her. Just remember that this time - it's all or nothing. Don't expect any good thing after this, like her still talking to you again, when you get rejected for a second time. There is a fine line between perseverance and desperateness.

You tried your best. There's no shame in throwing in the towel at this point. Respect her decision and respect her being and respect the effort that you've done. Well done. 

Don't do anything rash to numb yourself from the sting of rejection. Don't drown yourself in alcohol, and don't take your own life. I know that you've done a lot of things in your life and you've just fell short, and this is another thing in that list. You still have your life to think about, so let it all sink in, do things that'll make you happy - not dangerous things please, and when you've accepted her answer wholly and you can look her straight in the eye with no regrets and remorse, then you've grown as a person. 

So close, yet so far. You fell, but don't hug the ground forever; you've still got a ways to go. Learn from everything that has happened, and stand up once more and live on.