How to Date a Girl - A Gentleman's Guide

Chapter 7 - Friendzone

The friendzone is a psychological place in which you find yourself trapped when you feel something towards someone who considers you only as a friend.  

Another definition is that the friendzone is a psychological place in which you put yourself when you behave like a friend with the person you like, because you don't have the courage to behave otherwise.

Either way, it is a dreaded place that no man -- no person -- wants to fall into. It stings a lot; it's like having your toe stubbed by hitting one of the table's legs. We've all been in that zone. If you haven't, then rejoice because you're one of the lucky ones (damn you guys). Don't even try to experience what it feels like, its like falling into the Marianas Trench, only there is a 99.9% chance of you not getting out of there. 

Slowly descending into hell starts when you confess too early and she drops the words mentioned above, which you can take as her kindest answer that you are getting rejected. You are mostly considered lucky by other men, because moving into the magical zone of friends ensures you that you still have communication with her, but it also means that your actions will be extremely limited and there is no hope of advancing your relationship with her. 

So one of the most asked questions of men in the world -- and there is still no concrete answer for it up to this day -- is how to get out of the friendzone. The best possible answer is that you befriend her as if you are starting from scratch. Be thankful that you still have the chance to talk to her and make sure that you make the most of it. Don't start to think that by falling here that you'll be stuck as her forever super mega bestfriend, think of it as a major wall that you need to get over. Accumulate all of the experience and information that you can obtain from this zone, and let time (and a lot of effort) heal the rift that separated the two of you and try again.

It may feel that the distance between the two of you now is the distance of the Earth and the moon, but don't let it get to you. Think of it as another stepping stone on your path, because by entering the friendzone, you will gain valuable information about her that you may not have had a chance to know before. Also, it will be a precious experience to share with others, because the friendzone is still a dreaded place for everyone and any help or suggestion on clearing out this zone will be greatly appreciated.

Also, you'll need one basic thing to get out of the friendzone -- courage. You have to have the courage to risk your friendship (again) with her so that you'll get her heart. Play it cool, play it calm. If you play your cards right, she'll fill up the trench for you and she'll get you out of that zone herself.

There had only been a few cases of people getting out of this zone and winning their girl, and they have been the ones who have worked their butts off to get the girl of their dreams. Most men will give up and pursue other girls when they end up here, because they think of it as a ceiling that they can never break through. Fuckboys have plastic forks for determination to break the ceiling, and they just save what determination they have to break girls with paper ceilings. But if you truly love her with all your heart, and you are willing to risk everything for her to become yours, then persevere, show that their plastic forks are mere toys to your wrecking ball of determination. There isn't such things are walls or ceilings if your love is true and you are determined that she is the missing piece in your life.