How to Date a Girl - A Gentleman's Guide

Chapter 6 - She's not interested in me. What do I do?

So I'm covering first on what to do when the girl of your dreams... doesn't see you as her potential partner.

You may have done something wrong, such as letting your intentions show, or you become too touchy, or may be just because you're not her type.  Heartbreaking, isn't it? But don't worry, all hope is not lost. You should know what you've done wrong, and make the appropriate moves to get back on the right track.

If you've blown your cover and you've let your intentions show, then get your foot off the gas pedal and slow down. Being too aggressive will turn off most women. What you should do is to lay off and show that you're not in a rush. Remember: This isn't a video game race where you can just restart once you lose, this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to win her over. So take it easy and get back to your usual habits. You can show your intentions little by little, but not in one full burst. She'll gradually get used to it, and it'll show that your hard work will pay off.

If you may have touched her too much, or have done something that ticked her off, or have said something inappropriate, apologize immediately and ask for forgiveness on the spot. Remember: learn to swallow your pride, it shows humility and that you value your relationship with her more than your own ego.

If she gets turned off at you, find out the reason why and change as needed. If it's something minor, then adjust that. It may be your dressing patterns, or your loud belching, or even your attitude towards other people. The little things makes a huge difference. If it's something major, such as the location of your house, or your school, then tell her that it'll cause inconvenience on your part. Tell her that you'll make it up to the major things by putting in more effort. Do the things that you can do to make her look at you again. Remember: it's all in the effort.

And if you feel that everything you do leads to nothing -  it doesn't mean that you should give up. There are still many ways to salvage the dream. Keep your active but not too aggressive stance. You still need to understand her point of view and understand why and how things led to what it is today. Basically, don't lose hope. This is merely a road bump in your quest for the ultimate jewel in your life. What you should do is to reflect on your actions, and act accordingly. You are bound to make mistakes along the way, but the ability to learn from them will separate you from the rest. 

Don't feel downhearted by the sudden turn of events between the two of you, it is only but a small pebble in your way. Never giving up is a trait that we as men should always have. We fall down a hundred times, we stand up a hundred times, better and smarter. Don't worry, you got this.