Hello, guys! I'm here with more personal topics and some advice. This time I'll be discussing toxic relationships, the signs of them, and how to deal with them. Let's get started!
I have a story about a toxic friendship I went through not too long ago. At the beginning of the school year, I wanted to get a fresh start and make new friends or expand my friendship with people I already knew. A girl (If you read the chapter "Irrelevant," you may know who I am talking about) I knew the previous school year and talked to occasionally was in a class of mine. Being the person I am, I decided to talk to her again and create a friendship again. Boy, did I make a mistake.
It started off on a good note, though a bit awkward. I found out new things about her and she learned new things about me, typical friend stuff. Little did I know that she had an issue with her attitude.
As time went by, I took notice of her attitude problem and tried my best to avoid an argument with her. Unlike me, my other friends weren't lucky and constantly found themselves in arguments with her. She took the arguments WAY too far. People were hurt physically and emotionally. Unfortunately, I was too vulnerable to step up to defend my friends. She found her way to detention and other types of in-school consequences.
At that point, I was fed up and decided to speak up for myself and my friends. She was angry at me and called me harsh names like "dumbass" and "bitch." At first it hurt me, but what did I expect from someone with a bad attitude? She didn't talk to me for a while.
After a couple weeks, she "apologized" and we talked again. The friendship wasn't the same at that point, but I had faith in it and held on. The arguments continued and continued. They slowly made their way from verbal to physical. (I'm not comfortable enough to talk about that...)
We had one last argument and that's when I decided it was time to end our rather toxic friendship. Currently, I am in better spirits than how I was a few months ago. I lifted weight off my shoulders and I am not looking back.
(I don't wanna seem like the victim, guys. I was as much of a part of it as she was, but wasn't as harsh and hurtful.)
Signs: •They cause arguments for no reason. •Blame the argument on you. •Make everything about them and ignore you if it's about you. •They make you feel left out. •They make you feel unwanted. •They don't forgive your apologies, whether it was your fault or not. •They aren't fun to be around. •They make rude/mean comments. •They talk about you behind your back. •They make up lies to avoid hanging put with you. •Don't care if they lose you as a friend or not.
How to deal with a toxic relationship: •Let them GO! •Find people who care about you and make you feel included. •Don't feel sad, it was a toxic relationship after all, you WILL eventually find people who you can trust. •Do things you love to rid you of any bad feelings. •Relieve your stress by meditating or trying something that'll calm you down and free you of stress.
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