My Perspective

VII

You never know how toxic some parents and family
members can be. You never know what negativity they'll
speak upon your life. You never know how things will go
when it's just you and your family.

Some people in this world don't need to be parents,
considering some parents don't know how to be parents.
They believe everything they do is the best thing for you,
and most of the time it's not. Parents make these
assumptions, decisions, and never think to pass it by you,
to see how YOU feel.

All you ever wanted from your parents is for them to
listen, but they don't, they believe on the inside that they
are right, and they know you. They hate to face the reality
that they could be wrong sometimes, that the way they go
about things sometimes is WRONG.

People who have bonds with their mother or father or any
guardian in their lives, wouldn't understand the
frustrations with those who don't. It's different, imagine
trying to get your guardian to listen to you, bond with you,
genuinely love you, be there for you and not put you
down about it. Just imagine struggling to get a bond you
feel like you'll never get, because no matter how hard you
try, you'll never receive it.

I always tell myself, if I were to ever conceive a child or
adopt one, I will always be there, I will always listen, I
will always be open to whatever their goals are, I will
always be there to support, nurture, and love them. I will
always teach them right from wrong and store the
wisdom of things inside of them. Don't ever make them
feel any way you felt when you were their age, always let
them know that you will LISTEN.

The biggest problem that parents have is listening. They
never take into consideration how you feel, what you
want to do, what you think, and what path YOU want to
take! Everything is literally at its best when parents listen
and really get a great understanding of what their child
wants and desires.
But parents aren't so bad, they just have things to work on
and we as their children can help them, grown and work
on their things.

The Lord knows that children are a handful, and we act
out sometimes, it's normal. Parents have to realize
sometimes, just because they are our parents, and they
conceived us, does not mean they can treat us any way.
Imagine having parents that treat you like shit? It isn't
good at all. So, to parents, treat your child with the
genuine love, treat them like they matter, treat them like
they are the only ones in life that can make you a better
person. Stop letting them feel like they have to pressure
themselves to live up to the expectations that YOU set for
them, let them want to live up to the expectations that
THEY SET FOR THEMSELVES.

As children of hard working, loving parents we also have
to be considerate of the sacrifices they make, and not be
selfish brats. We have to learn that a lot of things in this
world don't grow off of trees, and our guardians bust their
asses to get those things we want each and every day.
The world can end at any minute now, so it's time to
communicate better with our parents and try building that
bond with them.

Start something new, start something real, start something
strong, be your guardian's keeper.

Snakes come in all types of different disguises; some
snakes even come within family members. Blood doesn't
make you family, loyalty does. Your family are the ones
you have to really pay attention to, because they turn out
to be the shadiest people of them all.

Imagine having a cousin that betrays you, or an aunt that
talks bad about you, or a brother that chooses his friends
over you. That isn't family, family don't tear one another
down to satisfied themselves or outsiders. Family is about
sticking together no matter what and being there through
the good and the bad.

Family can be so toxic at points in your life, they will
never want to see you do better than them. They judge
you for the path you began taking in your life, instead of
congratulating you on the good decisions you have made
for yourself. They will never see anything wrong in what
they say or do when it involves you.

The same people you grew up with are the same ones that
act like more of family to you than your own blood.
The ones who came into your life, and always staying
loyal to you no matter what, the ones who never fold
under pressure, the ones who stood by you when you
wanted to let the devil win, the ones who never judged
you, but loved you unconditionally, the ones who
remained real and loyal to you... Are the ones you should
consider family.

Sometimes I feel like I can't trust my family, I feel trapped
around them sometimes, they've become so toxic over the
years, I just can't stand to be around them anymore. I used
to want that bond with them, that love, and family
relationship, until I learned their ways, and, in my eyes, I
saw fucked up individuals that I cannot associate myself
with anymore.

As I am getting older, I notice a lot of things, I notice a lot
of change within my family. Everyone rather be shady
towards each other than having fun together, for once I
want something with the people that were in my life since
birth, to be around me gaining the family experience as a
whole.

Over the years people have forgotten the true definition of Family.

Family "isn't just the people who share your blood. It's the
people who said, "I'll be there" and never left. It's the
people who loved you, even when you didn't deserve it.
Family is the people who laugh and cry with you."
That is family! Nothing or no one should have the
opportunity to mess up your family.

Start wanting that new, healthy, and real bond with your
people, start gaining that relationship with them all, it's
only right.

I love my family, but I can't deal with my family... at least
not yet.

I can't see myself being close with my cousins, loving my
aunties and uncles, bonding with my grandparents, and
just being with family in general, but I will be open to do
it all one day. As time went on, I realized I could do better
in life and actually sit and try to rebuild a foundation with
my family.

One thing for sure, I will always love my people no
matter what, I'm just trying to stay in a good place without
being around miserable toxicity.