Advice and Helpful Tips

2.2 Coping with addiction

When you hear the word addiction, you'll most likely first think of an addiction to drugs, smoking, or alcohol. And while those are indeed addictions, it's also possible to be addicted to other things, such as gambling or gaming. But these other types of addictions are not talked about as much, and many people may have them without even knowing.

This chapter will have some general advice for different kinds of addictions. Do keep in mind, however, that most drug addictions and other more severe cases will need professional help if you want to overcome them.

Realise you're addicted.

This is the most important step. If you're suspecting an addiction, take a moment to think about it. Do you think you could live without it? How much has it changed your life, and how much would your life change if you stopped? Eventually, you need to come to terms with it. Say to yourself: I am addicted to (subject of addiction)? Then, it will be easier to get rid of your addiction.

Find the source of your addiction.

Sometimes, an addiction can be linked to certain objects. For example, people who smoke will be more likely to continue smoking if they can always access / see cigarettes. So, if you can identify an object / objects that trigger your addiction, you should keep them away from yourself. Out of sight, out of mind. But not all addictions have objects, so this won't apply to everyone.

Find ways to distract yourself.

Sometimes, addictions make it feel like your whole world is spinning around them, and like they're the only thing that matters. But if you can find healthier ways to spend time, eventually you can get rid of those feelings. Let's use smoking as an example again. You see a cigarette, and consider taking it, because you think you need it. But, if you can manage to not take it, and decide to maybe open a book instead, that's already a step towards victory. The more you do small things like that, the less time you'll spend smoking, and eventually it won't feel so important anymore.

Get help from friends and family.

Admitting to yourself you have an addiction is one thing, but telling others about it is another. However, if you can gather the courage to tell them, they can help and support you through your journey. For example, let's say you're addicted to gaming. Your family can keep an eye on you (while also respecting your right to privacy!) To make sure you don't spend too much of your time with the game.

Find support elsewhere.

If you feel like you cannot get through the addiction yourself, which is understandable since addictions are very tough to fight, there are ways to get support. For example, you can join support groups online, or try group therapy if that works for you. Both of those are ways to share your issues, and get multiple ideas and personal experiences from which you can pick out a few from, and see if they work for you. In general, listen to everyone's advice and get as many personal experiences as possible.

Set small goals.

Starting with something huge is usually not a great way to start things in general. For example, if you want to start growing a garden, you shouldn't start with plants that need constant attention and care. Instead you should start with, say, tulips. Those are easier. And similar concepts apply in almost all parts of life. But let's stop this gardening talk and get back to addictions. If you want to stay off, for example, smoking, you should start with a goal like: I will not smoke this weekend. Of course the amount of time will be different depending on how often you normally smoke. And after staying away from smoking for those few days, make a new goal. And eventually, you can make your goals longer and more difficult.

Be determined.

Even if you relapse while trying to overcome your addiction, don't let it stop you from trying. In fact, no matter how many times you get small (or big) setbacks, just remember that you can still recover. It's never too late. Don't let anything get in your way. Don't let others pressure you to anything, and don't let them judge you for your past decisions. You're strong, and you will get through it eventually. No matter how long it takes and how much you feel like you're not making progress. We all believe in you.

Sources:

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323465#takeaway

https://mieli.fi/en/home/mental-health/mental-disorders/addiction-problems

https://www.verywellmind.com/overcoming-addiction-4157285

https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/overcoming-addiction