Wife Claims (Momshie Series #2)

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Happy reading momshie!

Bakit ako kalmado sa kabila ng nalaman ko? I guess because I am emotionally stable. According to psychologist Irish Movido, 80% of our success in life is attributed to our emotional intelligence, while IQ only takes up 20%. 

Kung siguro emotionally unstable ako baka naglulupasay na ako ngayon kaka-iyak, nag ramble na siguro ang utak ko at sinugod agad ang asawa ko kanina roon sa baba habang may mga kainuman pa para kumprontahin. Baka rin kanina pa may mga nabasag na gamit dahil sa sobrang galit at insecurities na babalot sa kalooban ko. At higit sa lahat, siguro natawagan ko na ang number ni Mcdonald para awayin without thinking thoroughly the result of my actions.

This is also the reason why I am more authoritative in my children as my parenting style. I express warmth and nurture more their emotional intelligence, encourage independence through progressive approach, administer fair and consistent discipline with clear standards, democratic, assertive, and flexible. I am both high responsive and high demanding, meaning high discipline with high love that result to holistic children. I am more on "Let's talk about it". According to Maccoby, this tend to result in children who are happy, capable and successful.

Ayon din sa napanuod ko sa LEGO Education Academy, by year 2022, there are top 10 skills that will be trending namely, analytical thinking and innovation; active learning and learning strategies; creativity, originality and initiative; technology design and programming; critical thinking and analysis; complex problem solving; leadership and social influence; emotional intelligence; reasoning, problem solving and ideation; and system analysis and evaluation. Medyo nagulat pa nga ako na kasama pala sa skills iyan. We must build these skills to our young children because according daw sa pag-aaral, 65% of students will work in jobs that doesn't exist today.

So how do I nurture my children's emotional intelligence? There are actually five 5 ways to nurture your child's emotional intelligence ayon na rin sa psychologist na si Irish Movido, isa sa mga iyon ay ang pag set ng boundaries sa behaviors ng bata, hindi sa emotions. Halimbawa, nag set ako ng time limit sa pag gamit ng gadget sa kanilang tatlo, at dahil magkakaiba sila ng edad, magkaka-iba rin sila ng span ng time.

By nature, children are impulsive at kapag pinabayaan lang sila makakalakihan nilang maging impulsive – iyon bang gumagawa ng mga bagay na hindi pinag-iisipan. So bilang parent, naniniwala ako na okay lang or mas tamang term siguro na it is our obligations na mag step in if they behave inappropriately tulad ng pagiging mapanakit sa kapwa o maging sa sarili. Kasi sino ba naman ang sisisihin kung lumaking implusive ang anak? Diba magulang.

Habang bata pa, mas mabuting ma train sila na may mga bagay na limited lang, makakatulong ito para matuto silang mag control ng emotions nila as they experience it. Bilang mommy, na alarma ako ng biglang masaksihan kong sinasaktan ni Princess ang sarili niya, pinagsusuntok niya ang ulo niya habang pinagalitan ko dahil gusto pang manuod sa phone kahit tapos na ang allotted time niya, I wonder kung saan niya iyon nakita kasi ang kuya at ate niya never kong na experience iyon.

So I decided to study more about children's behavior, Movido suggests to use the stoplight method wherein the first step is to stop - the red one. Allow them to calm down for a second. The next is the yellow [light], which is thinking of solutions to a problem. So if you're going through something, what are you going to do about it? The third is the green light, wherein the child picks the best solution.

Walang direct instruction kung paano? Napa-isip din tuloy ako baka progressivist din ang psychologist, binigay niya lang ang method pero bahala ka na mag-isip kung sa paanong paraan. So the next time na ginawa ulit iyon ni Princess, I let her cry at pinanuod lang siyang saktan ang sarili na walang ginagawa o sinasabi as in nanuod lang ako sa kanya tapos noong kalmado na siya bago ako nagsalita.