#GirlsShitToo

Sexting

Wednesday night, I continued to imagine a U.S. where women could walk around without shirts on. I decided that, as soon as that law was enacted, Adree would probably be in the first wave of girls to actually do it. She always dressed pretty freely, even though she had gotten herself some dress code violations for it. I knew that because I'd seen her, on two separate occasions, wearing that ridiculous "shame shirt" that they make girls wear in place of their dress-code violating shirts.

I made a bet with myself that she would probably use her vlog to continue the discussion about how it's unfair that men are allowed to show their nipples while women aren't, and then I waited to see if I won that bet.

I didn't.

Sexting

Published on April 13, 2015

Youtube Video Transcript:

Adree here, back with Embrace Femininity.

I really liked Dallas's vlog last week. And I laughed when I saw that there was an online petition asking Dallas to free her nipples.

But I didn't laugh at one of her response to that petition.

Why? Because she said she's "too smart" for sexting.

Yeah, there are a handful of girls at our school, and probably at your schools too, who have sexted and regretted, because the nude selfies they took and shared were eventually seen by everyone.

But the whole "smart girls don't take nude selfies" has been influenced by sexism. Really, we should be saying, "Decent, respectful, moral guys don't share nude selfies." Because if a girl sends a naked text, and the receiver of that text, who is typically a dude, decides to betray her and share it with someone else, then what happens? I'll tell you.

The girl is a "slut" for choosing to express her sexuality through images and text messaging. The girl is "stupid" for making such a dumb choice. The girl "deserves it." The girl's nude selfie is suddenly "everyone's property."

But the guy who originally sent the photo to people who weren't supposed to see it...well, we never hear about him. We never call him a horrible betrayer, or label him disrespectful for completely failing to care about someone else's privacy, or admit that he's pretty much a sex criminal initiating sex crimes across campus by allowing others to partake in a sexual experience they weren't invited to.

And we all participate in this disgusting spectacle, even us girls who look at and pass along the photos. I've looked at some of these text messages and laughed and said that awful "S" word, and I am so sorry. A lot of my friends have, too. I know you have. I witnessed it. I realize now that we were no better than sex criminals for doing this, for sharing a sexual moment without the consent of the person we are sharing it with.

The only people in these sexting situations who deserve any sort of name-calling are the guys and even the girls who circulate these images—the sex offending, disrespecting, assholes.