Her Thoughts

WORDS

Yesterday, my brother lost his phone. 

"Nakooo napakasayang naman, bat di mo iningatan yun ?mahal pa naman ng selpon"

"bat di ka nag iingat? bili na naman ng bago gastos na naman! " 

"Di ka marunong mag ingat sa mga bagay-bagay, sinasayangan mo lang." 

My brother received different comments from our neighbors, sayang, reckless, di marunong mag ingat, pabaya. He accepted the situation but dahil sa mga negative comments, he himself cannot hide the dismay he felt. 

Instead of saying negative feedbacks, why not change it to more inspiring ang motivating? kasi ang dali lang manisi without knowing why those things happened. Hindi na natin kailangan dumagdag sa sakit at dissapointment na nararamdaman nila. Ang kailangan nila ay karamay para sa mga bagay na walang may gustong mangyari at lalo na hindi ang mga taong sisisihin sila sa mga bagay na hindi nila hawak. 

YOU PASSED THE EXAM! CONGRATULATIONS! 

It was a year ago when I received this kind of message from the university I applied for my college. I posted it on my facebook at nakatanggap ng maraming magagandang mensahe mula sa mga kaibigan, pamilya at sa di ko kakilalang mga tao. I was euphoric and overwhelmed.

"Wow sanaol! congrats ! HAHAHAHAHA" isa sa mga kasama ko nung nag take ng exam ang nagsabi. 

"Maraming salamat! ikaw din congratss!" I replied to her.

"Anong congrats haha di naman ako nakuha e." I can feel the sadness from her reply. I didn't know what to say at first because she worked hard just to pass the exam and it turns out may ibang plano pala ang Diyos para sa kanya. 

"taking the exam and you being brave to accept the result is enough reason for me to congratulate you." I replied. I don't know what to say to ease the disappointment she felt.

"Thank you! another university emailed me and nakapasa ako sa kanila raw, baka doon nalang ako." she replied this time I can sense that she's looking forward sa university na papasokan niya.

My question is, did my friend intentionally failed the exam? did she planned it ? hindi niya ba ginawa lahat para makapasa? did my brother wanted it to happen? did he purposely/intended to lose his phone? NO. 

We don't have to say those things, we don't have to say how dissapointed we are sa nangyari. We don't have to state the obvious. Sa totoo lang, di natin alam ilang balde ang iniyak ng kaibigan ko dahil sa resulta, di natin alam ang dissapointment na naramdaman niya, di natin alam kung gaano niya kagusto maging proud ang pamilya niya pero para sa kanya dissapointment siya. Di natin alam kung gaano pinaghirapan ng kapatid ko ang selpon na yun para lang mabili at alam niya sa sarili niya ayaw niya itong mawala pero nawala pa rin. Di natin alam ang nararamdaman nila. Di natin kailangan sabihin sa kanila na ganito ganyan dapat kasi, bago pa tayo ma dissapoint sila ang una nakaramdam nito. 

Ang buhay ay walang kasiguradohan, maaring okay ka ngayon, bukas hindi. Maaring kaya mo ngayon, bukas hindi. Kasi hindi naman sa lahat ng panahon, kaya natin. It is really important to surround yourself with those people who can help you to feel better when you yourself is having a hard time doing it. 

It's so easy to tell how we feel towards it without thinking kung anong mararamdaman ng iba. Let us avoid being so insensitive to other people's feelings instead let us cheer those people whenever they feel down, compliment them even though they think that they don't deserve it, and understand them when the world failed to do so. After all, we have different stories to share and we only have each other to make those stories worth reading.

Proverbs 15:4 "Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit."

Be mindful. Be sensitive. Be kind.

(Author's note: 45 reads!!! Last day I was so happy sa feedback from my friends and strangers! I just want to thank you all! I never thought na may mga taong gusto magbasa ng ganito though it was not intended to be discovered kasi realizations ko lang naman ang laman ng story ko! Thank you so much guys! salamat sa pag aantay ng update! SALAMAT SA SUPORTA! I promised myself and of course the reader that I will make something worth reading. 

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