Girls Guide To Relationships II

Ellina

Ellina: Hi, Really love your guide book.I would like to get your advice on something. So, i'll message you my situation if you are willing to help and you could publish the solution in the book, maybe?

Me: Ya sure.

Ellina: Okay. Thank you so much.My name is Ellina.There was this really cute guy with beautiful eyes in my class. He started sitting with me during the classes we had in common and then we started talking. He asked for my number and then we started texting. He asked me if i was interested in him because he was interested in me. I'm not a very expressive person and also i wasn't sure if i wanted to be with him or not, so i said 'no' a few times. But then finally i said yes. So, we were not exactly dating but we knew that we both liked each other. I deleted the conversation because i did not want my brother to read it incase he started fooling around with my phone. After a few days i got to know that he has a girlfriend in another city and was serious about her. So, naturally i was hurt but i did not tell anyone and did not even confront him. I just stopped talking to him. Then after a few days my best friend came to know about his girlfriend and was worried about me. Instead of talking to me, she told about the whole thing to his bestfriend who was a good friend of mine as well. So, they both had a fight because his friend thought that what he was doing was wrong (and i love him for being on my side) . After this, he deleted some of the messages where he told me that he was interested in me and showed the rest of the normal conversation to everyone and told people that it was me who was running after him. I'm an introvert and did not defend myself. Also i had myself deleted the entire conversation so i had no proof. My reputation was affected. Also, his best friend (who was my good friend) stopped talking to me. And, everyone thinks that it was just me who liked him and, you know, the behaviour of people towards me changed and I hate that. What do I do?

Me: Uh, well first of all where were the messages? An app or normal text? If the people who you've known are not gonna believe you then they're crap...Shit that's a sticky situation...Do you want to confront him again?

Ellina: The messages were on whatsapp. Three of closest friends know about the whole situation and they believe me. I don't really know. If I confront him, it'll turn into a major issue and things will get awkward after that.

Me: My main editor said " I think she should confront him. He knows he lied to save face. Maybe she should talk to his girlfriend and tell her about wat an asshole she's dating. That way he has no gf and her can be forever alone. I also recommend that the next time she texts a guy, don't delete the messages. That was her issue in the first place. If it was me id be suspended from school for kicking somebody's ass. But that's Jhus me."

Ellina never responded up back after this...