Girls Guide To Relationships II

RG

Her real name was Melissa, but too many Melissa's have been messaging lately.

RG: There is this guy I like,we are the same age,but in different class(I go to class 8th B and he goes to 8th A),people from my class don't like him so much..He is the 'popular'(but not so popular) guy,sometimes he is a loner,but sometimes he's with guys...My friend(from hks class,doesn't know that I like him) embarrassed me in front of him a few times,same goes for my bestie,she did the same..I texted him on Facebook a few days ago..here is the convo : me: Hi. Him: hey. Me:Do you know any good series? Him: no.. *end of convo*...I live in Europe so it's not the same as it is in American schools..there is this girl that likes him and he knows it(the whole school does),he doesn't like her..I know that he likes volleyball,handball and football..I used to go on the volleyball practise,because my friend is also practising it,but I was mostly looking at him...I suck at volleyball and other sports..I want to be friends with him so later I could ask him out,but I don't know how to be friends with him..I always act like an idiot and say stuff that I don't usually say..he has a weird effect on me lol...Help?

Me: What're you wanting to do? date him? Talk more?

RG: I would like to be able to talk to him, and then later date him,if possible.But,I am just soo scared because I always embarrass myself

Me: Why do you care so much about what some middle schoolers or highschoolers think?

RG: Idk...

Me: Are you sure? Have you been bullied or something?

RG: Yes,before... Until that person finished school and went to high school

Me: Does he bully you? Is he like those bullies?

RG: No,he doesn't.,He is sweet,kind and he is that guy that almost every girl drools for ._. Yesterday,he confirmed my sentence,while I was talking with my bestie,and then he asked her if she passed the audition..What if he likes her?But she has a boyfriend,and she would never do such a thing to me,but I am worried.. My guy friend is having a birthday party soon,but I think that my dad won't let me go on that party...And guess who will be there?Yup,my crush...And my bestie and I will ne the only girls there..

Me: Well if he's not a jerk, don't relate him towards the jerks you knew. I think you should try telling him at the party, alone.

RG: I'm want to first become friends with him,really close friends..And I'm not sure if I will be allowed to go to the party.. If we become best friends,then it will be easy for me to tell him,but now,we're not even friends..

Me: Welll..Why would it be easier if you were best friends?

RG: Well,it would be easier for me to tell him But anyways,my bestie caught him looking at me today,and later we looked in the eyes(he was about 6-7 m away)

Me: Well, usually when best friends confess it doesn't end well all the time. But maybe. And aw lol me and my crush do that all the time.

RG: My guy friend(that goes to class with him),in front of him(my friend doesn't even know that I like him),and my bestie,said : Oh c'mon,we all know that you want to bang him(wtf?I'm only 14..)...And I said:What's wrong with you??(but I wasn't soo upset..)...we were standing on the stairs and I was on the top,with my back turned to my crush(so I didn't see his face)...when my friend said that,he just looked and walked away..my bestie said :omg,the way he looked at you..(first,she said that he was looking with a weird/shocked face,and later she said that he was looking with a weird/shocked face but that he was smiling..I'm not sure if she lied to me just to make me feel better,but I have a feeling that he doesn't like me..) I went to a female volleyball match/game(idk),with a few friends...and who was there?My crush... And his ex gf was playing..in some really short shorts..he still likes her ..well,I can't blame him,that girl is literally perfect(thigh gap,smart,pretty,great body,long dark brown wavy hair...)..I have a thigh gap,but I'm not as lretty as her..But the worst part is that I still like him..

Me: So he likes someone else now, but you like him?

RG: I'm not sure if he still likes his ex gf(they broke up a year ago)

Me: Why'd you say he still likes her then?

RG: Because he went to a volleyball match/game and she was there..and he plays some sad love songs on the radio...

Me: Maybe he's just not over it. I think that the only thing you can do with him right now is try to become closer & friends with him. That'll give you time to develop a relationship & him time to get over one. Then you'll have a better chance at being the next one he dates.

RG: Thanks. She never actually loved him(she is older than him),but she said yes when he asked her for a relationship just because she felt sorry for him..

Me: Wow.. That's wow..

RG: Do you have any advice how could I become closer and friends with him?Being a kid that has depression and the kid they call 'emo', and saying that I listen to 'satanic' music..and not to mention that I used to self harm..so yeah..I am an awkard person and I don't know how to become closer

Me: But he's not judgemental towards you. So just sometimes say "Hey!" What's up? Or something when you see him. Try not to be a fangirling, be like you're talking to an old friend.

RG: Yeah..but,umm that's hard..if I say : Hey..What's up? It would be too weird..

Me: Nah. Act like you've known him forever. I do it all the time.

RG: I don't know how will he react...

Me: Alright try it! life is full of surprises.

RG: He sort of scared me today,and we(my bestie,he and I) sort of talked lol he's a really funny person...and we looked in the eyes today! :)

Me: That's a good start! Keep at it omg!! ♥♥

RG: Yeah,but I don't know how to And I am scared,bcz what if he starts to like my bestie?She has a boyfriend and she would never do that to me  Today,my bestie said that she thinks that he likes me..but I'm not sure :/

Me: Who knows. You're never gonna know unless you actually make a relationship with him.