So lately I've been thinking of something new to put in the book and of course I'm suppose to be guiding you, like a "You do it first and tell me how it works out" kinda relationship between me and all of my lovely readers. Guess what I did? I lied. Yes, I, being a human, lied to my current girlfriend. (If you did not know, I'm bisexual.)
Well what did you even lie about?! Some of you are wondering, but sorry! I simply won't tell you. The most unhealthy thing in a relationship is to broadcast your problems. I told an untruth and it was an untruth!
Well can you tell us what happened? Sure.
Lies are the worst things for relationships. Relationships are built off of trust and honesty and this one small lie almost shattered everything, and now we're in shambles. It doesn't matter if you lied to your partner and just said "The sky is green." The point is, even that bizarre lie can shatter someone. You're unsure of what happened in their past, so if they were ever betrayed before, we all were at one point, you could ruin everything. Like I did. Not believing me? Go try it out in your own relationship.
My girlfriend had entrusted me with her feelings of past relationships and me being a dumb-ass I'd been hiding a secret from her from almost a month. I am so glad I didn't wait an longer because I guarantee it would've ended everything.
Well, how did she react? Oh, back to the point.
She handled it amazingly. She started crying and was angry with me, though she said she admired my honesty, because people from past relationships just made her find out by herself than being brave enough to tell her.
That doesn't sound amazing.
It is. For the brain and your emotional and mental state. My girlfriend is over it and trying to move on, while I'm stuck in guilty mode. I'm afraid this might end the relationship too. But anyway! Back to you!
Steps to handling a lie:
1. Cry.
- Just cry until you can't anymore. It allows you to emotionally get over things faster.
2. Tell the person you were lied to by how you feel.
- Leave nothing out
3. Make tough, but smart decisions on if you should let the person go.
- Sometimes we over exaggerate how bad the situation is. If the person just said "The sky is green" that's no big deal. Hopefully you understand my metaphor.
Person lying:
1. Find a way to forgive yourself.
2. Move on.
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