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To My Younger Self - A Letter from Your Future Sister in Islam

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To My Younger Self - A Letter from Your Future Sister in Islam

Bismillah.

First of all, MashaAllah TabarakAllah, ukhti.
I felt so proud and touched when you called me your older self. But I think it's even better to say you are my  future self. That thought delights me even more-thinking that I could be the version of yourself you're striving to become.

I know this is going to be a long reply because, once I get into something, I go really deep-lol.

So let's start with a powerful Hadith that comes to mind:

> "There are seven whom Allah will shade with His shade on the Day when there will be no shade but His..."
One of them:
"A young man who grew up worshipping Allah."
(Sahih al-Bukhari 1423, Sahih Muslim 1031)

With the thoughts you shared, it's clear to me that you're truly one of the blessed slaves of Ar-Rahman in your youth. I'm saying all this just to bring you peace of heart-I hope it doesn't overwhelm or distress you.

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Your Role as a Woman - Honored in Every Stage

The second thing I want to remind you of, my dear sister, is the honor Allah has placed upon you just by being a woman.

> Uqbah ibn Aamir narrated:
"Whoever has three daughters and is patient with them, feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes them from his wealth-they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection."
(Also applies to two or even one daughter.)

SubhanAllah-by just existing as a daughter, you became a shield for your father on the Day of Judgement.

Then you upgraded, MashaAllah, to become a wife.

> "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise."
(Tirmidhi)

Imagine that-a lifetime of sins overlooked by Allah because your husband is pleased with you.

> Abu Huraira reported:
"If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
(Sahih Ibn Hibban 4163)

Now look at how merciful Allah Azzawajal is towards women. First, we protect our parents from Hellfire, then by being loyal wives, we are granted any gate of Jannah.

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The Rank of Motherhood - An Unmatched Status

And then we become mothers. SubhanAllah, Allah upgrades us again. We become someone's Jannah.

> "Heaven lies beneath a mother's feet."
(Qur'an 31:14 - Wahnan 'ala Wahn: Hardship upon hardship)

I can't even find words to express this. Even saying Alhamdulillah doesn't feel enough.

Let me share something personal-my mother. I could write a whole book about her and it still wouldn't be enough. She married my father at just 20. Her struggles, sacrifices, and especially her Sabr... the way she views this life and the next leaves me in awe. I love her with my whole heart. I often think, if I were in her place, I could never survive the way she did. She inspires me every day.

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You Are Now Someone's World - And a Guide

Now, ukhti, you've become someone's everything. You have the responsibility to raise righteous souls, who will in turn raise others-a chain of righteousness.

But here's the truth: this takes patience.
You don't just tell children what is right-you show them.

Life isn't always easy. It's not a bed of roses. With children, it's a constant test. They won't always be thankful. They may not appreciate your sacrifices. But that's okay-you're not seeking your reward from them.
You're seeking it from Rabbul Alameen.

> Teach them why we are here, and what we're working toward in the afterlife.

And ukhti, please don't overburden yourself by overthinking. Everything falls into place in time.

I once heard something beautiful about raising children:

> "Play with them for the first seven years, teach them for the next seven, and then advise them for the last seven."
- Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)

Focus on building a beautiful bond in these early years.

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Your Worship - Simple Yet Sincere

Now to the part that hurts your heart the most-feeling like you're not doing "enough" Ibadah.

Let me tell you clearly:
In my eyes, and more importantly in Ar-Rahman's eyes, you're doing more than enough.
Just be loyal in your duties as a wife and mother-that itself is Jihad.

> A woman came to the Prophet (SAW), questioning the rewards men get for jihad and charity. The Prophet (SAW) replied:
"A woman who takes care of her home and children has the station and reward of a Mujahid fi sabilillah."
(Sahih al-Bukhari)

That's right-your housework, your love, your patience-it's jihad.

If men knew your rank, they'd be the ones making your tea.

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Practical Ibadah Tips for Busy Moms

Don't be sad. Start small:

> Pray only your Fardh salah. That's 17 rak'ahs a day:

Fajr - 2

Dhuhr - 4

Asr - 4

Maghrib - 3

Isha - 4

If it's hard, try praying with kids nearby. Let them play with a toy box, give them snacks, take turns with your husband.
And if a prayer is missed, make it up later. Allah is Merciful.

> "The first action a servant is held accountable for is Salah..."
(Sunan al-Tirmidhi 413)

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Your Role Is Sacred

Do your best. Say Astaghfirullah often.
Send Salawat on the Prophet (SAW).
Be sincere. Let your children see the Deen in your actions.
Let your husband see Islam in your patience.

And ukhti-be patient, and trust that your effort is not going unnoticed.

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A Final Reminder

Please make dua for me, and for every single person out there who is still single, that Allah grants them a spouse who becomes a coolness for their eyes, and a partner on the path to Jannah. Ameen.

> "Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata a'yunin waj'alna lil-muttaqina imama."
(Surah Al-Furqan 25:74)
"Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous."

Only Allah Ta'ala knows best.
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السلام علیکم ورحمة الله وبرکاته

May Allah guide and help us all. Please remember me and the entire Muslim Ummah in your du’as.

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