Crush Tips

Payo #11

"Wag kang ambisyosa dahil hindi siya si Daniel Padilla at wala sa kanya ang lahat. Akala mo lang meron, pero WALA! WALA!"

Madalas, kapag kumbinsido na tayo na siya dahil lahat ng hanap natin sa isang lalake ay nasa kanya na, nabubulag tayo ng pagasa na yun. Pero, heller? Parang ano lang yan, di porke every Sunday ka nagsisimba eh mabait ka na dahil kadalas, yung pang wala sa simbahan ang tunay na may puso.

Okay, let me start this by telling you about this guy that I have been crushing on for almost 4 years and how I am/was really trying to move on every now and then. But every time I decide that I should get over him, there would be something that would make me fall again. So I end up trying and trying again and again (up until now. meh -.-.).

I don't know but, there is really something with the way he smiles and the way he walks and the way he laughs and.. and just everything about him that just makes me adore him more.

Whyy? Whyyy? Why do you have to do this to me?

I have been praying to the Lord that if these feelings are not from Him, I would love Him to take it ALL away because these emotions/feelings have been devouring my soul already. Wait. Not really devouring, maybe, consuming.

Yes. Consuming is the right word for it. I was hopelessly devoted to him to the point that I can see his name wherever I go. Sometimes, I feel I am even hallucinating. Sometimes I see him jogging, sometimes I see him at Church. Sometimes, I even see him in my dreams. I see him in my dreams to the extent that I don't want to wake up because at least in my dreams he notices me, he loves me. I like him despite what others say about him. I still like him even if there are times that when I pass by, he won't even say hi or smile at me. There was even a time when my friend told me that he doesn't even know how to cook rice. I told myself then that I would learn how to cook so he won't need to go to restaurants just to feed himself.

Seriously, what kind of sorcery is this?

This is insane. This is pathetic.

Call me crazy but my heart was really captured by this guy. He's got almost everything that I wanted for a future husband.

What made me like him that much? Well, I don't know either. Maybe when you start liking a person, you learn to compromise (but not to the point where your values are at stake. Ok?). You learn to compromise the little things that you could work on together in the future.

You learn to accept that person's flaws because you know that you are both imperfect and you think you compliment each other. Liking/loving someone is the greatest feeling in the world. God even sent Jesus to prove His love for us, right?

How amazing it is to be loved in return. <3 But I find it more amazing when someone continues to love a person without even expecting to receive anything in return.

I call it a LOVE-HATE relationship with yourself.

You love it when you see him and you love it when you do something that would make him notice you but at the same time, you hate yourself for being so desperate just to get his attention. This is the sad-ugly truth.

My dear, if a guy is in to you, he will make a move. He will tell you straight in your face that he likes you. He will treat you the way a woman should be treated. You don't have to dress in flashy outfits or wear heavy make up. If a guy really likes you, he would love ALL of you. He would love seeing you in your simplest form.

You are worth more than rubies as the Bible would state it (Proverbs 31:10)(okay, I am preaching to myself right now). Never ever lower your standards. You are precious to the eyes of God. Never settle for less.

"But, he's cute, he's kind and he's everything I wanted!" you say, but have you thought about what/who God wants for you?

Imagine liking a man because he have all the qualities you're looking for a future mate and imagine a man that God has planned for you. Which of these guys do you think is better? A man's heart plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps. (Prov 16:19). You may have planned your future together but it's better if it's the plan that God has made for you.

"How would I know if he's the one that God wants for me?"

Pray for it. Read God's word and in no time you will be amazed with what He is going to reveal and do with your lovelife. I am telling you, God is seriously interested with your lovelife. Share it with Him. Seek Him first before seeking a spouse. Matthew 6:33.

So for us who are hopelessly devoted to a guy who wouldn't even recognize our worth, well it's time for us to wake up and have a shot of reality. Love comes when you least expect it and I sincerely believe in that. Let's shift our eyes to God and see the wonderful things He's about to reveal.