So I Heard You're A Player [On Hold]

So I Heard You're A Player: Nice To Meet You, I'm The Coach.

It's kind of funny how we make such a big deal out of things, mainly because that person hurt us. They deserve to upset, they deserve not to find anybody after because they broke your heart. It's not a reason to get upset, seek revenge, because while you're critiquing them for being a heartbreaker, you may not realize that you're a heartbreaker, just like they are.

And no, I don't mean as in when you rejected some kid's Valentine card and threw it in the garbage in third grade.  Or in middle school, when you "dated" a guy but actually never talked to them during your "relationship" so it was pointless.

What I mean is, we could be breaking somebody's heart and we wouldn't even know it. Or we do know it, but we frankly could never picture ourselves dating that person because they're a tool, or you just see them as a friend. Either way, we have our reasons for not liking somebody, even though the reason might hurt the person. So we try and create an excuse to cover the true reason.  The person could be a guy that has been in your class for years, but you ignored him because he thought was nerdy and weird looking. Or one of your friends, who so bluntly tried to make it obvious, but  you were oblivious to it. People don't tell you they like you for many reasons. One, they're too scared of the feeling of getting rejected. Or the other reason, they're not sure how to approach the subject with you. Or they feel as if they have no chance whatsoever, and try to get over you without you having an idea that they liked you in the first place.

Now let's say you're in a scenario where a guy is admitting his feelings to you. Now, this guy, is mainly a piece of shit who plays girls faster than it takes your phone battery to die. Even though you try to look through his good points, it's not enough to say you can deal with the bad points. Even though right now It sounds like I'm describing Dylan way back when I was still getting to know him. He's not the point here. Or maybe, the guy is a  genuinely nice guy. But it's the scenario where "you complain about guys being jerks but when a nice guy comes along, he's in the friend zone." Now I never found that to be entirely true. Just because you're a nice person, it doesn't change anything,

 People don't have intense feelings for another person just because they're nice. It's a whole lot more than that. In reality, people will like you, but you only see them as a friend. Or, you like them and they only see you as a friend. Yeah, it sucks. But what the "nice guys" have to understand is that you don't choose who you fall for, and you cannot be upset and say girls fall for jerks and complain about it. It's just like us girls saying, "Guys always go for the sluts, but once they meet a good girl, suddenly she's not good enough and she's just in the friend zone." And I'm sure if you said that to a guy, they'd get defensive just like I am about this topic.

Continuing on with my scenario, let's say that you said no. But he didn't give up, because guys like that are persistent and highly enjoy the chase. Then he keeps caliing you, still flirts with you till' no end. What do you do, do you be rude and tell him to piss off? Or do you be nice, because it seems like the right thing to do, even though you're frustrated enough to kick him across the planet?

That's the thing, being nice won't get you anywhere. When you're nice,  it only attracts them even more. Makes them long for you even more. But when you're rude, you seem like a mean person who doesn't care about anybody's feelings.

So what do you do? That's what I'm trying to figure out.

 What I'm trying to say in my little rant is that, we're always the ones to be so quick to say that somebody's the heartbreaker, and how they should be ashamed of themselves. When, we, do the exact same thing in general. Everybody does it, you either get heart-broken or you're the one who smashes their heart into the ground and you might not even know it.  Sounds harsh, but it's not like we want to do it. It's just how it works. Ever realize how someone likes you, just the way you want someone else to like you? It's a cycle that never ends.