A virginity is precious or a curse. To have a barrier that no one can break, except someone you absolutely trust with your body in a consensual way is something I cherish, to be able to say "no, you're not the one", or to simply get it over with is something I love. I get to decide who gets this piece of me.
Even if the first time a person has sex, their virginity is their until they give full consent. Hymen or not.
To have the power to trust someone with the one thing that you've had consistently your entire life, something your body or mentality is used to having is special. Not in a way that I think it irresponsible or slutty to give it away as a one night stand or carelessly, but even in one night stands, you trust the person enough to get the job done. You trust them enough to not hurt you in ways you don't want to be.
A virginity is not special in a ways that only my husband or a man in in love with is gifted with. It is not a gift to offer. It does not mean pure. But when I trust someone, maybe not even love or is in love with, I want to be able to give my virginity to someone I know won't hurt me afterwards. Someone that's not just there to collect their prize.
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Woman.
PoetryA book of poems and feelings. A book from a girl, a rose from the concrete. A Woman growing.
